Parents giving up adopted child

I have always thought that there is a law to protect adopted children from cases like this. Well, apparently not, I suppose after reading about this Korean child.

I fail to comprehend how a mother after 7 years with her adopted child still fail to incorporate their culture or bond with the child. And abandoning her due to the child not eating their food is just total rubbish. yes, the mother should seek help.

The girl will be emotionally scarred for a long time but hopefully she will get through all this and learn to trust again.
 
>> I have always thought that there is a law to protect adopted children from cases like this.

Even if there was such a law the family is probably protected by diplomatic immunity.

Besides, not much that can be done once they have left Hong Kong. The govt is not going to chase them across the globe.

I'm surprised that the consulate has made no attempt to help find a suitable home for the kid.
 
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shri said:
>> I have always thought that there is a law to protect adopted children from cases like this.

Probably protected by diplomatic immunity. If this is indeed a diplomat's family.

I'm surprised that the consulate has made no attempt to help find a suitable home for the kid.
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That's what i thought diplomatic immunity...These people are just horrid!
 
you know... my almost 3 year old and i argue about his not eating all the time. that doesn't mean i'm going to dump him for "not fitting in with the family".

i hope that these people think back on this and regret it for the rest of their lives!
 
the thing I hate the most is..

The Dutch family might have problems that we don't know,
but the most important thing of all is that They just abandonded her in HK . They didn't even take her back to S. KOrea for legal help or anything like that. They just left her at the hongkong goverment office saying they no longer want to raise that girl and please find a family for her. Do you guys think this is a normal action???
Hongkong goverment doesn't have to do this kind of thing for them. They should take care of it by themselves since they are the one who started this.

They're not dumb or poor, they are even well educated, the dutch diplomat!!!!! That is the most disgusting part.
At least they would have ideas of what to do and not to do.

I also heard from my korean friend ( she read it in the newspaper . I think in korea it's a big news.) that some koreans insisted that the Dutch government should do something about that parents and the dutch goverment said it's a personal thing, so don't take it on to The dutch government.

I mean it's just unbelievable.
 
shri said:
Some more coverage.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/li...ews.html?in_article_id=501281&in_page_id=1811

Conincidence or not ... I'm having drinks with a well connected Dutch guy tonight who says "every one knows everyone in this community".
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Well, if it's possible, ask and find out and give us the truth. I really hope that this couple has a very valid reason. Not just not wanting to eat as a reason to give up the child. My dog is a fussy eater and very often we have to find different kinds of food to feed her and you don't see me bringing her to the pound to return her. How can this couple treat their child worse than a dog? I really want to know.
 
What they've done is abandon. As I said on GeoExpat, the father should have taken responsibility - he's trained as a diplomat so taking ownership of a problem should be fundamental to how he thinks (unless he's the type of guy who sits at a counter and stamps passports - which I doubt).

Given the access they'd have had to people and groups, they should have tried their best to find a suitable family for the kid.

Not wanting the kid is inexcusable, but abandoning her is unforgivable.
 
I know there are not many Dutch products on the shelves but I'm planning to boycott any that I come across. I find it appalling. How can he get away with it. How could his embassy NOT do anything about it even if he's a diplomat.

Yes, we don't know what it's like. But someone with post-natal depression doesn't get to give up their own kid. If they abandoned their child, they'd be in trouble with the law.

What they've done is just downright immoral. The kid's been around since 4 months!!! Cultural assimilation is not an excuse! At 4 months, what would a baby know???
 
More like 6-7 years...

A Dutch couple has sparked outrage by giving up a seven-year-old South Korean girl they adopted as a baby – after claiming she didn't "fit in" with their life-style.

The diplomat and his wife, who had taken in the child after failing to conceive, handed her to social workers in Hong Kong after having two biological children.

They claimed the girl, who was adopted when four months old and has lived in the territory since she was three, was struggling to adapt to their culture, including food.
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I guess none of us know their side of the story... but let me assure you that this case has sparked outrage in the Netherlands as well. In fact, while the SCMP did not mention the diplomat's name to protect the privacy of everyone involved, some Dutch papers mention names, show photos and even part of their address...

The couple is still in HK and are still the legal parents of the girl, who has been in foster care since May (when they gave her up) until HK welfare has found a new family for her.
 
Found this on the International Harold Tribune:

The official at the South Korean consulate, however, said the family had two other children, a 14-year-old-boy, and a second son, born after the girl was adopted.

Full article can be found here.

http://www.iht.com/articles/ap/2007/12/11/asia/AS-GEN-Hong-Kong-Adopted-Girl-Returned.php

Even an expert at the HKU's Social Welfare Faculty cannot believe how incredibly ridiculous their excuse is for giving up the child.
 
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surprising it took them 7 years to realise that the adoption went wrong. How slow are they? Adoption is not like buying things if u dont like it u can exchange or return it. Horrible people. May they rot in hell for hurting a child
 
Hello,
I speak Dutch and I read Dutch papers. Here is a link to an article with the name and the photo of this diplomat and his wife:
http://www.telegraaf.nl/binnenland/2762360/_Jade_het_wegwerpkind__.html
He is not anonymous in Dutch papers, and most Dutch people are raging and say that he now has no right to represent their country. He is actually of Indonesian origin and his wife is Dutch - so, I wonder what food do they call theirs?
If you do search on his name in Google, you even find his email address. I emailed him to tell how disgusted I was, and received an automated reply that he is off work till January 2008.
 
A couple of years ago there was a case like with with an Irish family returning their Indonesian son to an orphanage after 2 years because they got child of their own. Irish child welfare organisations took up his case and went to court, and the judge decided that the child can keep his Irish passport and that the "parents" should pay him big maintenance monthly till the age of 18! He now lives with his biological mother. See here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tristan_Dowse
I think something like this should be done for this girl too. Can some organisation in HK take this case on?
 
Adopting and than giving up? what type of conscience these guys have? and they had to wait for 7 years to decide to abandone her. Were they waiting for a 7 year itch or something. I agree with spockey a child of 4months doesn't know a thing to have such differences.
Well If the mother is suffering post-natal depression then why not give up the other children also. How does abandoning only her makes a difference for the them? This is all simply bogus.
 
I am so sad for the girl! I know it is not nice but hope what goes around comes around. Hope this couple rot in hell!

I just did a search on google. An article came up about how the couple hosted a party in 2005. The article mentioned the son and wife but nothing about the daughter even back then. I am wondering if they ever treated her as family? http://www.occlub.org/occ/activities/past_event_intro/ny_2005.htm

Feel so angry! I will definitely write to the consulate too!
 
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The more i hear the more angry I get - sure we don't know the full story and newspapers do sensationalise facts to get readers but it seems the facts in the case are so outrageous that a journalist wouldn't make them all up. I think the parents should be investigated for criminal neglect - although I wouldn't want 2 more children to suffer. The whole thing is very strange - there must be more to it.
Happily I do know a number of adopted children, both western and asian who are as part of their families as a biological child, it can work, and we mustn't let this story put others off.
 
rina15 said:
A couple of years ago there was a case like with with an Irish family returning their Indonesian son to an orphanage after 2 years because they got child of their own. Irish child welfare organisations took up his case and went to court, and the judge decided that the child can keep his Irish passport and that the "parents" should pay him big maintenance monthly till the age of 18! He now lives with his biological mother. See here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tristan_Dowse
I think something like this should be done for this girl too. Can some organisation in HK take this case on?
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I wonder can something like this be done for the poor kid? Or how can we go about helping this kid? These people who adopted this child, I really hope that have a damn good reason for giving up this poor kid. A damn good reason!
 
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