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Helpers for stay at home mums? Totally justified !

I think expats who generally live here without any family especially need them. They are part of the support network. Examples of needing someone you can rely on include:
* my friend who had pneumonia - 14 days in hospital with her husband by her side, 2 children including a baby at home with the helper.
* my husband travels a LOT. If something happened to me, I know my helper could take care of my children until my husband came home.
* having the freedom to spend one-on-one time with a child knowing the other child/ren are well taken care of.
* especially when you have a newborn and an older child, it is helpful to leave the helper at home with the baby whilst you do school pickup/drop off, so as not to interrupt the baby's sleep.
* just being able to go out for a meal/movie/whatever with your husband or friends occasionally
* Children are a full time job. It is nice to hand the housework over to someone else.

Also, sometimes mum just needs time out.
 
I work full time. But if I do become a stay at home mum someday, I'd still hire one. Why not?
 
thanks, AndreaY.

HappyV, if you were gonna attack me regarding my daughter staying in the back of the car by herself, i already mentioned that I'm tryin to get her to behave so that I can bring her so Dh doesn't have to come. & try telling a 2yr old that all other 2 yr olds behave in the car & that she should too! since i'm already trying to rectify my problem, i cannot see how that warrants an attack.

on that subject; i've driven several 2 year olds, they all behave well in a car. they either sit quietly or sing along the children songs i play, or ask about what they see along the way. i have never seen anyone like my daughter who 50% of the time screams & kicks while in a car......
 
Shouldn't a two year old be in a car seat in a car? That would make sure they were sat safetly and it would make travelling alone with a two year old, however active, energetic etc. much easier? Then it wouldn't matter how much they kicked and screamed because they would be in the car seat and unable to go anywhere.
 
I assumed, JoanneK, that your daughter doesn't travel in a car seat and then realised was prob. wrong to assume so- just trying to understand why a child in a car seat would need a helper to 'control' them as well!
 
I was thinking the same thing about the carseat. Both my children were dreadful travellers at that age, but at the end of the day they could scream all they wanted, but they still couldn't get out of the seat. I remember many a long car trip on my own in the car with a screaming baby in the back. It is extremely tiring but then that's life. Eventually they get over it.
 
we use a car seat too for our 2 year old. in canada, i think that the law is until they are 7 or 9 or something like that, they must be in one...but as they get bigger, it's more of a booster seat than anything.
 
yeah, she's always been a car seat, that's why all the screaming & kicking. now she wants sth to drink, now she wants me to play another song, now she wants a snack. since she's strapped in the car seat, she needs someone to hand those to her!! i know, maybe becaue i've spoiled her since Day 1, cos there's always me or the helper next to her, playing with her or giving her cookies.....
 
in fact, she's so used to being strapped in, if I start the car without her strapped in a seat belt (when we're in a parking lot), she'd say, "oh no! oh no! no! no hoi che! no seat belt! wait! wait!" (meaning, "don't start the car, no seat belt!") LOL
 
My son went through a period where he hated the car seat. Since it was usually only him and me in the car, he just had to get used to it. I would think it you ignore the behavior, by not giving her anything, not stopping the car to give her a jiuce or dropped toy, she may scream extra loud for a few trips, then she will know she won't be getting the attention she wants and the problem will be solved. She screams because she knows that by screaming she will get the toy/juice/snack. ect.
 
I would keep a secret stash of toys in the front seat with me and whenever D started fussing, would pull out a toy he hadn't seen in ages and that would distract him for 5-10 mins. We're lucky distances are short in HK and our drives would be no more then 20-30 mins.
 
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joannek said:
*me asking aloud* - administrators, i find it difficult to believe such bitter person do exist in reality. or is he/she just a virtual reality member geobaby has created to act as the devil's advocate?
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She does exisit.

Happy V - Stop your condescending remarks. It serves no purpose other than to antagonize. We?re all doing the best we can with the Helpers we have. Not all Employer/Employee relationships are perfect and this forum is for Employers to discuss anything/everything. :mad:
 
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