What was your biggest fear with your baby?

[rani]

What was your biggest fear with your baby?

 

[MickeyMom]

First baby, first few weeks were nerve wracking! hehehehe

they would sleep so deeply and you never know if they are still breathing. I used to put my face very near his nose just so i can feel him breathing. Takes a while getting used to really. I welcomed his cries for feeding all night long just to take away this fear.

 

[joannek]

i used to freak out about germs, esp after SARS. i would carry spray around for my hands. whenever i touch somewhere public, I'd spray my handsd.

one time we were on a plane & my helper & I wiped down all 3 seats back & front & everywhere around the seat with Chlorox wipes, (u'd be surprised, how dirty they are) while my husband carried my daughter. there was a man seating next to us watching, i smiled at him apologetically & he said, "wow, you guys are really clean". he must thought i had the impulsive cleaning problem!! LOL

 

[ELT]

i often check on the baby to make sure he's breathing. He's 10 months now and I still do that.

 

[arleneli]

I was so scared that she wouldnt grow as much as other kids do (physically and mentally). Then I was so scared that she doesnt get enough nutrition

 

[Bubbly]

My biggest worry was if she was too cold or too hot. I didn't know whether to turn on the aircon or not and would fuss around changing the temperature al the time!

Breathing would come second.

 

[milb]

My baby girls cried a lot last night after a jab. Then she suddenly fell asleep..a deep sleep...she didn't move a bit even I tried to wake her. There was one moment I thought she's not breathing right...and that scared the hell out of me...

 

[JoTs]

My biggest fear was that he would never learn to sleep well - I was so tired!!! Now he sleeps from 7.30pm-7am!!!

 

[annahk]

My greatest fear has always been SIDS. Cannot count the number of times that I have woken up a peaceful sleeper, checking that they were breathing properly. I still find myself putting a finger under my 5 year old's nostrils to check that she is breathing!

 

[aussiegal]

do other mums feel like this?

I wasn't so worried about breathing but every time he got sick or gets sick (he's now 18 months) I'm a little scared that it's going to be something bad. In general i just get scared every now and then at the thought of losing him tragically. It's scary being a mom. I remember when i found out i was pregnant, i woke up one night soon after in a sweat realising that i would never again have nothing to worry about. First there'd be getting through the pregnancy, then having a healthy baby, then SIDS, then choosing schools, worrying about him fitting in, not being bullied etc, then becoming a teenager bla bla bla. Mind you I'm not overrun by fear but it's more that every now and then you get hit by a pang of 'what if'. Maybe it's because i lost my father suddenly or do other mums feel like this?

 

[Neha]

We were worried about the breathing also but also my husband has the fear that our son might fall of the window so he doesnt take him out in the balcony or near open windows. I also have fear of giving him some solid foods I feel he might choke so I am little hesitating in introducing solid foods like finger food. But now when I see other moms in our play group giving finger food to their kids I also have started and my son loves them.

 

[loupou]

My fear was similar - that the baby would never sleep well, so I would never sleep well and end up a psychotic gibbering mass.

 

[HappyV]

That he wouldn't put on weight properly, and catch up to full term babies.

 

[Poppy]

I was so obsessed with how much she was eating! ... first i was convinced it was not enough, and then I thought she was eating far too much!!! ... That is when it struck me that i would worry which ever way, so I tried to put it to back of my mind (after a yr or so LoL).

 

[Buckeroo]

I had the usual fears with #1 (SIDS, sleep, nutrition, etc.), but now with #2 have relaxed a bit, although I do get really stressed out any time any one of them is sick. Now, my biggest fear, if you can call it that, is I won't "do right by them" --possibly somehow shortchanging them in the choices I make, not being able to give them the right guidance, etc. Vague, when put that way, but it's something that I think about constantly.