to sign or not to sign?

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pangmei

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Just wondering if there are any mums/dads willing to share their experiences with teaching their babies to sign. When did you start? What resource(s) do you use?

Also interested in hearing from those who have decided not to teach their babies to sign and the reasons.

Thanks,

Grace
 
No matter how, you will sign to your babies because they can't talk yet. I did not use any of the 'materials' that are selling in the market but i do my own signings with my baby when he was like 3 months or as long as he begins to response to my voice and looking around. I am not the extensive type but just do as much as I can. Example like when I say 'milk', he will hold his two hands together and shake or the common ones like star, aeroplane, monkey, elephant, tiger, making pee, poo, etc. I can't remember when he did his first sign but I guess when he was sitting up. It is fun when you say a word, they sign or sign together - get the whole family involve.
 
I chose to not sign with my baby because of his personality and temperment (as well as my personality and temperment)--I had a lot on my plate when my son was born including some major health difficulties and my son is a very busy child (everyone we know says so)--he does not hold still easily (from day one) and I just didn't need to pile one more "thing to do" on my plate. He was always quite advanced as far as development goes (held head up at birth, sat up at about 4 months, crawled at 5 months, said first word at 5 months and first Cantonese word at 6 months and he started walking on his own at 8 1/2 months for example) so we always had a lot to focus on and didn't have much free time to work on making him learn "signs."

Now that my son is a year-old he has started to point at things and make noises--either he wants what he points at or he is asking, "What is that?" or saying, "Oooh...I like that." (I can tell by the tone of his voice what he's saying). That's enough "signing" for us. He waves when we say "bye bye" and is learning to do the "Kung Hei Fat Choi" hands from his grandparents. He's quite good at copying.

In other words, early on I could read his cues well enough and listen to the tone of his cry to know what he needed/wanted so I chose to make that our primary way of communication.
 
I've decided not to do it neither, because my son had his ways to express himself very quickly too, pointing, or by the tone of his voice, some noises (like mam-mam when hungry), or by taping on his nappies when he is having a pee (:)), going to the right drawer when he wants a cake, clapping when he is happy... and if I don't understand then he will be tempted to use words more quickly. Signs won't be used for a long time, as words will come quicker. I'm also tempted to say that they might use signs instead of talking, and that apart from you and the family, nobody else can understand (like the babysitter), but it's a very personal thought.
 
I bought a book and taught my LO a few signs when he was around 7 months old and as the PP says you make up your own signs as well. Although I had intended to teach him more, in the end I procrastinated and then he started talking at 9 months so I didn't bother any more.
 
I loved the idea but when you are the only person in the house willing to do it then it isn't really worth it.
 
i started signing with my elder son when he was 6mths. it took him over a month to learn the sign for 'milk' and that was really discouraging for me so i stopped. At 16mths, when my younger son was born, I signed him up for kindermusic's sing and sign so my MIL would have an activity they could do together while i was making rounds to the hospital. HE LOVED IT!! he came home signing 'bubbles' 'ball' 'more' all within the 2 weeks of the 4 week program. so we went along with it and taught him 'music' 'dance' 'eat' 'drink' 'please''thank you' and some animals (he was already talking at this point but he really seemed to enjoy the signs. he would say the word and sign at the same time.) now at 22mths, he still uses signs when he speaks and we play a guessing game - I sign 'bear' and he says 'BEAR!'. I am hoping it can be something he can teach his little brother and a fun thing for them to play together.

i started off wanting to sign bc i heard it would make my child 'smarter' and to avoid communication related tantrums but we really only went along with it when he showed interest and it's more of a fun thing. i don't regularly introduce new signs. we are still at the same 20 or so signs. I guess I could look up more...maybe i should do that instead of being on geobaby!! haha ;)
 
I bought the book, and signed religiously from 6 months, baby was so good in signing, he managed to know everything from 10 months up, my concern was he did not talk early unlike other kids (i know all kids are different), at 1 yr he can only say daddy, not even mama. To make the story short, he only started really saying words from 22 months. I stop signing him at 1 1/2 yrs as i was worried already.

Will i use baby sign for my next baby? definetely NO, i have given away all the baby signs books and CDs. Like other moms, i'll just stick to normal signing like milk, bye bye, but not necessarily all the words in the book.
 
We sign. I never bought any books but downloaded some baby signs from Auslan. We don't use many, just milk, bath, more and a few others. My 10mnth old son signs 'milk' a lot. It's useful because I don't understand anything that he says. ;-)
 
A vote for signing with your baby

We've signed with both our kids and it's been an amazing journey for us. When we started out (at 8 months), it wasn't because of wanting our baby to be "smarter" or anything. It was more purely for the fun of it as I have always been interested in sign language. We signed not because we were expecting anything out of it other than the fun of being able to communicate a bit earlier (hopefully) with our baby. Much to our delight, our son signed back at 9.5 months and the experience that we had of being able to communicate effectively with him led me down the path where I went on training in the US and am now teaching sign language to other families (another story altogether).

Contrary to what people might think, signing with your baby is NOT hard work at all. When we started, my husband had zero signing experience and he was able to sign with our babies in no time. Many of the signs used in the Baby Signs(r) Program are very "iconic" and are very easy to remember.

Over 20 years of research has shown that signing with your baby does NOT impede speech development. Our son spoke his first meaningful word at 11 months and by 14-15 months, he was SAYing 2-3 word sentences and at 18 months, he was talking in full sentences.

As a Baby Signs(r) instructor, I can only say that the decision of whether or not to sign with your child/ren is a up to you and is a very personal one, but as a MOTHER who has signed and is still signing with two very verbal kids, I really recommend it for the enhanced emotional bond that it creates. Signing with your baby really opens up a window to your baby's world that you otherwise might not get a glimpse into before he/she is able to articulate his/her thoughts, feelings, wants/needs, and interests.

PM me if you are interested to know more or I'd be equally happy to answer questions here on this thread. :)
 
Great signing experience

I had a wonderful signing time with my son. I started out with him when he was 8 months and after 2 months he picked up his first sign. Started out with some resources from the internet and later purchased some 'formal' material.

It was a great experience and after that there was no turning back. I enjoyed the whole adventure with him. The best thing I liked about it was that signing gave me a window into his world. There were times he could 'tell' me certain things that I didn't know he knew or was aware of. We also shared funny experiences together. For instance, there were times when he saw an octopus and he would sign pig (just because it was pink), and at times when he saw a bear and would sign a dog. Without signs there would be no way for me to know this.

My son became very interested in talking when he was 18 months. That's when he dropped a lot of his signs. I was quite sad to see the signs go yet happy and looking forward to another journey together. He speaks well and I believe that signing had a big part to play.

Language delay is a great concern among many parents. As a parent I too wouldn't want that to happen and would be worried if it did. For those of you who have tried and thought that this whole signing thing wasn't a good experience, just think about this - what if you didn't have signs to use with your child, your child could have acquired speech even later. And if yes, aren't you grateful that you had signs in interim to communicate with your child.
 
we had a good signing experience. since my daughter has a speech delay, sign have become very helpful because we avoid miscommunication tantrums for basic stuff like milk, more, water...etc. we didn't do a lot, just basics. i borrowed a baby signs book from the library. i bought the potty training package from baby signs. it worked really well for communicating potty needs before my daughter started talking.
 
The best thing I liked about it was that signing gave me a window into his world. There were times he could 'tell' me certain things that I didn't know he knew or was aware of. We also shared funny experiences together. For instance, there were times when he saw an octopus and he would sign pig (just because it was pink), and at times when he saw a bear and would sign a dog. Without signs there would be no way for me to know this.
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JWLS --that's exactly what I love most about signing with our kids! :)
 
Signing is a good way to communicate with babies!

At the beginning I was quite skeptical, whether signing with with babies is a good idea. Curious as I am, I went to a Baby Signs(R) Parent Workshop here in Hong Kong.There I heard about the research for the Baby Signs(R) Program and all the benefits for the babies. A result of a long term study was, that Baby Signers were on average talking more than non-Baby Signers. So there shouldn?t be any concerns that using signs will interfere speech development.

But what me impressed most was a story of a young baby that woke up at night and signed the sign for hot, so the mum recognised that the baby had a fever.

I see signing as a bridge to communicate with my baby as long as she cannot speak. My baby is now 8 month old and I started signing 2 month ago. Now she is already signing the sign for bye-bye and I can see how proud she is when people recognise what she is signing/saying.

I definetly will stick to signing with my baby.

- Vanessa
 
A comment for MamaS

Hey MamaS...I just wanted to share my experience with signing as it was similar with yours...just with a different ending. I have signed with all 3 of my girls, and all 3 of them waited until about 22 months to start talking. This didn't concern me, however, because once they started talking, I noticed immediately that they were already advanced in their communication skills. They were using multiple word sentences, had a larger and better vocabulary compared to kids their same age, and if they ever mispronounced a word, we could usually use a sign to clarify, and therefore encourage proper pronunciation.

I know as a parent it can be very worrisome if our child is doing something later than other children. I know that I felt the same way with my first daughter...especially since most signing books talk about "kids who sign, talk sooner". I have found, however, that the incredible communication skills that result from signing are well worth the wait. My daughters have always known at a very young age that they can tell me what they need and I will respond (no tears needed), and that they can tell me about the things they notice around them. It is incredible to be able to have a 2 way conversation with a 12 month old.

I have two stories I just have to share. Sorry for being so long winded! When my oldest daughter was 13 months old we were taking a walk through a park. In the distance was a man playing with a soccer ball and his dog. Laura pointed and got excited and since most kids are attracted to animals I said "That's right! There's a dog". She gave me this look like "what are you talking about?" and signed BALL. This was the first moment I truly understood and realized, that as a parent, I would not always know what my daughter was interested in! Thank heavens for signs so that she could tell me what she wanted to hear about, so I could fill her head with information about the ball...and not the dog which she couldn't have cared less about at that moment.

And my last story is about my 3rd daughter when she was about 13 months old. Natasha had thrown up in the night, but didn't cry so I didn't know. So when I went into her room in the morning, her and her bed were dirty. I said and signed to her "Uh oh Natasha! You are all DIRTY. Looks like you were sick while you were SLEEPING. Let's go have a BATH." So I gave her a bath, reinforcing the signs. About 45 minutes later we were all eating breakfast, talking about other things, and Natasha put down her spoon and signed BATH. Here is how our mini conversation went:
N: BATH
Me: That's right, you had a bath this morning.
N: DIRTY
Me: That's right, because you were dirty.
N: SLEEP
Me: Yes, you did get dirty while your were sleeping!

Satisfied, she then picked up her spoon and resumed eating. She had something she wanted to talk about, and she was able to with no hesitation from me. For me...that's what signing is all about!

MamaS, I am sure you also have a gazillion stories of positive experiences signing with your first child. I encourage you, before you throw signing out the window, that you consider the other benefits you experienced, and evaluate if you are willing to lose those moments with your second and other children.

Good luck!

~Lisa
 
Hooray for baby signs!!!

My husband and I started signing with our daughter when she was 6 months old. Mostly because we thought it would be cool to have her able to communicate to us at an early age but also because I work in early intervention and I have seen how it helps other children communicate with their parents. Around 10 months she started signing back to us she is now 17 months and knows 15+ signs and has a growing vocabulary with signs and words. We mostly sign what she wants and needs milk, more, medicine, hurt etc. Now that she can associate a sign with a word she is learning much more. My parents have a fire place and I have tried to teach her not to go near it. I her hand close to it so that she could feel the heat and signed "hurt", and said "this will hurt you! Do not touch it will hurt" she knows now that hurt = pain and has not touched it at all. She has suffered some medical problems and even though she does not have the verbal words she has been able to sing to us that her head hurts and she needs medicine. It has been such a blessing to have her be able to communicate to us what she wants. She amazes me at how smart she is... she will hear my phone ringing in my purse she will come sign to me "phone" and say hello to let me know I need to go answer it. She will point out animals that she sees when we are driving and sign them.
I tell my families that I work with every family has to do what is best for them. And signing has been an amazing Blessing to my family. Instead of her screaming that she wants something she will come sign to me and we have way less temper tantrums then most of my friends children her age. My parents and in-laws can not understand alot of what she is saying yet. Example she says "wa" for water but she will sign milk along with it and they know she needs a drink. We are now working on signs for potty training and she will already sign when she has pooped and needs changed she is only 17 months old!!! We fully plan to sign with the rest of our children.
 
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