Take it easy....
Babyblue,
So, you don't live in Oz w/ easy access to a pool, and your 3 year-old isn't swimming yet. It's no big deal.
My son hated washing hair but loved messing about in the pool,. It wasn't LOGICAL, but who expects an under 5 to be logical? Just take it easy and let your son play in the pool and enjoy himself.
He will probably be able to swim at the age of 4-6. As I mentioned in my earlier post, it's only the summer my kids were 5 that they were able to swim more than a few meters alone.
Development works in stages and sometimes trying to do stuff too soon just increases the frustration level & worry level for nothing.
Like tying shoe laces. I learned to tie my laces when I was about 5 years old and I still remember it being a bit of a struggle. I've always hated untying knots, so, lazy mother at I am, I've been keeping my kids in velcro fastening shoes.
My daughter is now 7 1/2 and has begun to lobby for shoes with shoe laces. This Saturday I said, "OK, let me teach you how to tie shoe laces." I demonstrated twice, talked her through it twice & DONE. She learned it in about 3 minutes. Something that I can picture being a long & painful struggle w/ plenty of room for angst and power struggles at the age of 4 or 5.
I'm not saying that you should wait 'til your son is 7 to teach him to swim. I'm just saying that you should take the pressure off yourself and not *worry* because your 3 year-old is not yet swimming and hates to get his face wet. No problem. Just keep lettting him play without getting his face wet and he'll let you know when he's ready.
My husband didn't learn to swim until he was about 11 or 12 and went to a public swimming pool and watched other people and imitated them. He still can't float very well, but he can do the breastroke and crawl very effectively and enjoys swimming.
Life is not a race to see who can swim at the youngest age, or be the youngest uni graduate or anything.
I am not a better mother than someone whose kid at 5 1/2 can't swim as far as my son, nor am I a worse mother than those whose kids can swim 100 meters in 2 minutes. Kids are different, mothers are different. I just try to come to know andwho my kids are, and to relax and enjoy them as much as I can.