Three things have happened recently with my helper that has really upset me. 1. She asked my son to keep secrets from me. 2. One of the secrets was that she was leaving the baby alone (asleep) in her crib while she left the house to fetch my son from school. 3. She left the house with the gas stove on and locked herself out of the house.
Of course I was beside myself. I told her leaving the baby alone is against the law in HK, incredibly dangerous, and the stupidest thing she has ever done. I told her I would have to think about whether or not I would keep her. Not to mention my husband's boss fired him because he had to leave work to let her into the house. But after discussing with my husband, he decided it was better to keep her than try our luck with another helper who might be equally irresponsible and we had to take responsibility for not specifically mentioning not to do these things. SO we told her we would not fire her.
That was two weeks ago, but I still feel like I can't trust her. And really, who on Earth expects they have to tell a person not to leave a baby alone in the house? Or not to leave the gas stove burning? And the secret keeping REALLY bothers me. What else am I not being told?
I sat her down with the list of rules I gave her when she arrived last year, updated to state she must never ever leave the children unattended. No secrets. A few other changes. And stressed this was her last chance. But I still feel uneasy.
I know what I need to do is let her go, but my children are quite attached to her and there is a good chance anyone who replaces her will be much worse....plus I did promise to give her another chance.
What would you do?
Of course I was beside myself. I told her leaving the baby alone is against the law in HK, incredibly dangerous, and the stupidest thing she has ever done. I told her I would have to think about whether or not I would keep her. Not to mention my husband's boss fired him because he had to leave work to let her into the house. But after discussing with my husband, he decided it was better to keep her than try our luck with another helper who might be equally irresponsible and we had to take responsibility for not specifically mentioning not to do these things. SO we told her we would not fire her.
That was two weeks ago, but I still feel like I can't trust her. And really, who on Earth expects they have to tell a person not to leave a baby alone in the house? Or not to leave the gas stove burning? And the secret keeping REALLY bothers me. What else am I not being told?
I sat her down with the list of rules I gave her when she arrived last year, updated to state she must never ever leave the children unattended. No secrets. A few other changes. And stressed this was her last chance. But I still feel uneasy.
I know what I need to do is let her go, but my children are quite attached to her and there is a good chance anyone who replaces her will be much worse....plus I did promise to give her another chance.
What would you do?
