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engee

engee

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My 21 month old son needs to be rocked and patted on to sleep at night.If i dont give in for the rocking session he cries a lot.Do i just leave him cry off to sleep or do i continue.
I am not sure coz i dont want him tofeel lonely or upset.But i want him to learn to sleep without my assistance.He needs to see me while sleeping....
by the way he sleeps with us.Is it important to let him sleep by himself on another bed?
Any comments guys?
 
engee,

i can understand what you must be feeling...my son is 26 months old & I still need to rock him to sleep most nights and even for his day nap...thankfully though he started sleeping in his own roon in his own bed at about 22 months.....I really tried to brainwash him that he was going to get a great bed & I bought him sheets with all his fav characters...so he loves his bed....i somehow just can't bear to see him cry...I understand that I'm making things more difficult for myself but even I don't know what to do about the rocking...
 
My 27th months old daughter is the same. Although it is tiring for me but I feel that she is only 2 years old once and I will never get to pat her to sleep in future so I see this as a special time and rather enjoy it because I know when she is 20 years old I will look back to this time (of her wanting me to be next to her when she sleeps) with a big smile on my face.
 
I used to say and feel like what you all said when I still rocked my 1-year-old to sleep :agree: How long can this be? I cherished every moment of it .....until I was pregnant with no.2. Their gap is only 19 months, so....... I just couldn't bear the weight of 2 kids on me.....

So, I rocked her until she's half asleep, then put her down on her bed. She'd fuss a bit, so I stayed next to her for a while. We moved her to a toddler bed since we need the crib for no.2. Then the rocking part just got shorter and shorter. But I still had to stay next to her until she fell asleep. Until later on I started reading bedtime stories to her, so instead of rocking her to sleep, I said we'd read..... and she loved it..... and still does till now. That's how I stopped rocking her to sleep!
I still had to sleep next to her for a few months or maybe a year before she finally outgrew this stage as well.

No.2 and no.3 fall asleep by themselves early on..... I trained them to, having experienced all that with the first one.

If you only have 1 child, or if the age gap between siblings is big, then..... you won't feel how important it is to train them to sleep on their own as early as possible.
But when you have 2 or more, like me, how can possibly even have the time to rock them to sleep?
 
odm post

I know exactly what you mean...my second child is 3 months old & she sleeps on her own...no rocking...it was very difficult for me when I was preggie...now abt once a week my son sleeps with me just lying down next to him....any idea on how to get him to leave the bottle...he drinks all liquids in a cup...only milk he'll scream if I don't give him his bottle....

thanks
 
rads

my son too needs the bottle for milk.he wudn drink it from a cup.i tried it with a straw ....he goes nope!
he doesnt like drinking water either.i dono why.

i dono wat to do too.
 
engee

is your son potty trained????? My son just says no no no when I ask him if he wants to sit on the potty....

now more and more he sleeps without rocking...hopefully he'll just outgrow it....
 
rads
no, he is not potty trained.i read that abt 2 yrs wud be fine to begin that training(aaaaaahhhhhh) session.
HE is getting to sleep too without much rocking nowadays.but his appetite is just worst from worse.he just doesnt eat a thing,for days.
he is developing boils or pimples i dono what they are on his face.
he doesn drink water.....
i am totally stressed out.feel like jumping into a pool to let the heat off me.

any comments?
:bawling:
 
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engee i used to get my son to drink water from my glass...by asking him to take sips whenevr I drank...

I suggest you get him to a doc abt the boils & rash.....

i know how u feel abt the pool...been there...hang in there...It does get better..After the terrible TWO phase which has now began...
 
Thanx so much rads for ur reply.
i think i shud take him to see other kids.we live in sheung wan and i dont think there are any play groups here.
perhaps he is feeling lonely...idono....

he is very flatulent.what can i do abt that?
can i give the grandma's recipe "ginger and garlic"?
 
i know the indian grandma recipe...in which we rub some warm ghee(clarified butter) mixed with asofatida(not sure of the sp) on the belly botton...u can also blow hot air from ur mounth into his belly botton....


I felt a lot of changes ( positive ones) in my son once he started a play group at 16 months & at 24 months he started going to nursey which did wonders for him too
 
rads said:
any idea on how to get him to leave the bottle...he drinks all liquids in a cup...only milk he'll scream if I don't give him his bottle....
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sigh..... I had this problem with my first child. She drank milk from the bottle until she's 4!!!!! :redface: because I've been hearing stories how some children just stopped drinking milk when they took away the bottle. Well.... no matter how much I tried to make drinking milk from the cup sound nice, she just wouldn't drink from the cup. So now.... her milk intake is zilch!!!!! although she takes yoghurt or cereal with milk. But how about drinking milk from the cup????

Anybody has some ideas?


Thanks!
 
hey odmpost,

looks like we r all in the same boat!
i have tried straws and sippy cups for my 21 month old son but nothn seems to help.
am too looking out for any suggestions to wean him off the bottole.
 
odm,

"No.2 and no.3 fall asleep by themselves early on..... I trained them to, having experienced all that with the first one."

How did you do this?? I've tried the baby whisperer mrthod and it's not working.
 
Yup!

engee said:
hey odmpost,

looks like we r all in the same boat!
i have tried straws and sippy cups for my 21 month old son but nothn seems to help.
am too looking out for any suggestions to wean him off the bottole.
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Yeah... sounds so familiar!

We have tried sippy cups with the pliable, soft tops, and anything else we thought might work, to no avail. 16 months is where we are. For the most part, she doesn't take bottle.

But she's gotta have that bottle before nap and before bed. Along with a little rocking, her cotton diapey, and her Fan Noise. She's a busy little girl, though! Always has 10 things she's GOT to do. So even after all of that, she still sometimes wants to play in the crib. And she almost always still wakes up and gets one in the 2-4am period.

We've decided that patience is our best approach. We've read all of the books, and tried different methods. She doesn't (usually) throw fits during the day for her bottle. And once we hit 15months, she started throwing some serious fits, which we've read is normal. Being loving, patient, and supportive is how we've decided we are going to work through this.... and trading off between my wife and I if the frustrations start to get us riled up is also crucial. Teamwork.

We're also trying to get her to sign with us, as she's not really interested in talking yet. We're hoping that if she can learn some basic communication it will help her to help us meet her needs better. We don't want her to rely on the bottle for comfort if there is something else that she is wanting. And since we've been having some ear problems its been hard. We don't want to make bottle a crutch for her, but we want to comfort her when there is pressure in her ears.

Well, hope something of this helps! And good to see that their are lots of babies that are similar to ours.
 
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