Riding the emotional roller coaster

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Sparkle

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Had a miscarriage from my first pregnancy in the first trimester last June. Been trying again after that and going into 10th cycle of trying without success. Words cannot describe how I feel right now. Still feeling the pain from the previous loss and losing every hope in conceiving again after so many months of doing the right things but with no success.

I can feel the changes in my body during this 2 weeks waiting period in this cycle. My boobs have grown substantially bigger, more tender and sore... So I thought it was a good sign, with increased mucus all this time... And yet, the pregnancy test trip just gave me a slap in my face. How can this not be it??????

Has anyone had similar experience of false alarm? Really need some support right now. So down... So down...

I have made an appointment with Dr. Carina Chan and Dr. Milton Leong of the Women's Clinic. Can anyone share her experience with Dr. Leong as it will be my first consultation with him?
 
I`m sorry you are going through all of this.
For my pregnancy(I have a baby now), which was about 2.5 months after a D&C, the first test showed negative, but I had symptoms. I took another test about a week later and it was confirmed. The first test was faulty.
Did you take many tests already? How many days are you late?
 
My period isn't due until tomorrow. I took an early pregnancy test for it claims to be effective on samples taken for up to 4 days before due. From my last pregnancy, the result returned positive few days before my period is due.

Interesting...
 
I found it best to wait until my period is missed before testing.
For some reason, my tests returned negative before this.
With my first pregnancy I tested negative the day I was due( with a test you could use 5 days before), then went on holidays and drank loads, only to find a week later my period still hadn't arrived and I was actually pregnant. ( My son was fine after this).

Try not to let yourself get too upset. It will happen. After having a miscarriage and then giving birth to a beautiful baby, I look back and think that if I'd gotten pregnant any other month, or hadn't miscarried, this particular baby would never have been born.
 
I agree with Matty. Although my miscarriage and subsequent D&C was emotionally (and physically) painful, if that never happened at that time, I would never have gone on the conceive and give birth to this beautiful child. It sounds strange, but miscarrying was the greatest thing to happen to me now.
I didn`t know they had tests that claimed to be so sensitive. I would definitely wait til at least you missed your period - the hormone levels need time to rise more, I would think.
 
Sparkle, I just want to say hang in there. I had several m/c before having my baby boy and now I am about to have a second child (with another m/c in between). I know how hard it is when you m/c and then its takes a long time to conceive again. It is pretty soul destroying. However, I do agree with what the other posters have said, if I hadn't had the m/cs I wouldn't have gone on to have the beautiful son I have today and the daughter I am going to have in a couple of weeks time.

You don't mention how old you are but if you are over 35 (as I was) you should give some thought to having a full fertility work up even though you have "only" had one m/c and "only" been trying again for 10 cycles. A lot of doctors want to wait until you have 3 m/c to perform extra tests but, if you can afford it, I would push to have all of the tests now so you don't wait another 6 months to find out that you have an problem that is correctable.

Goodluck and I really hope that the pregnancy test is a false negative.
 
Hi Sparkle, sorry to hear about what you are going through. I can understand to a certain extent what you are going through. I had a miscarriage end of Feb and had a subsequent D&C. I'm on my 2 cycle since the D&C. Since I only have one ovary, I've been seeing my doctor frequently just to monitor things more closely since I know I have low progesterone. At the same time, I've also been seeing an acupuncturist just to help with regulating my period better. Anyways, took a pregnancy test yesterday that showed a very faint pregnancy line. Took another one this morning that turned up negative. (Two different brands). I'm not really sure what to think. I'm seeing my doctor again tomorrow so we shall see.
Not sure if you believe in Chinese medicine but it might be worth a try. I was converted when a good friend of mine had trouble menstruating properly or even regularly 1 year after giving birth (she stopped breastfeeding at 6 months). She went through all sorts of treatments with 2 different doctors for 1 year with no result. Finally she decided to take a break and started seeing an acupuncturist instead. 4 months later she got pregnant. Be more than happy to pass on the info on the acupuncturist if you are interested.
As for Mr. Milton Leong, I saw him for my first pregnancy. Just be prepared for one waits. He's a nice man and is generally very patient in answering your questions. Although if you don't go into appointments with a list of questions yourself, the appointments tend to be on the short side. But I didn't feel he was as easily accessible. Also, he generally likes to keep his patients on the small side (once you get pregnant) which really annoyed my husband since he suggested on more than 2 occasions that I needed to watch my weight a little (which of course not the best thing to tell a pregnant women with raging hormones and already very self conscious about weight). Anyways, that's why I've decided to try a different doctor this time around.
 
Hi Sparkle

I go to Dr. Philip Ho (he has his own clinic in Central) and I know he is known for being a fertility specialist who deals with many types of complex cases. He is patient calm knowledgeable and reassuring. If either of those doctors don't work out (I don't know anything about the 2 you named) you may want to give him a shot. His nurse Kelly is really warm and wonderful and accessible. Number is 28992293.

Good luck!
 
Hi Sparkle, just wanted to add that I too did a pregnancy test 3 days prior to my due date and it came up negative (it was one that detected pregnancy 5 days prior to your cycle). 3 days after my due date I did another one, and it came up positive. I am now 7 months pregnant. I too would recommend waiting until after your menstrual due date.
Best of luck with it all - hope you have a positive outcome soon.
 
It finally comes...

Still no success in 10th cycle. Day 1 of my period.

I keep track of all my cycles in a spreadsheet and it turns out this cycle is at par with my expectation except I ovulate on day 19, which is a bit late. Have read about late ovulation actually reduces the chance of conceiving as the egg is already past its prime when released. Is that true?

I'm really thankful to all of you. You gals are all so supportive and help me to gather the courage to walk on. Only if I know this forum earlier that I dun have to fight this war alone for the past year or so.
 
Hi Sparkle,
What you read can be true. However it would be hard to know unless you were monitoring it very closely with you Dr. I saw my doctor on Day12 this cycle and we did a scan of my ovary and uterus since test results from ovulation kits were all coming up negative. Anyways, everything looked like I should be ovulating soon and to ensure that we didn't let the egg get over-matured, Dr gave me a shot to ensure that the egg was released in 36 hours . Later that afternoon when I took another ovulation test, the results came back positive. Based on that and my bbt chart, it looks like I did ovulate about 1.5 days later ...

Went to the Dr on Friday (day 28) and took a pregnancy test again. Results came back negative. Dr said my temperature is probably still high and haven't gotten my period because of the progesterone I was taking. Looks like this month was not a success. But I'm still holding on to a tiny, tiny hope ...

During my Dr visit, we talked about the possibility of using fertility drugs to help bring chances up a little ... I think we will probably wait for another 2 months or so before we go down that route.
 
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