recommending my helper

mushi

mushi

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helper looking for a new employer:

We plan to move out from HK by mid/end of October and my helper is looking for a new employer. She had been working with us for over a year and half. She is a Phillipina , she is excellent with my kids....she is very honest and hardworking and you can trust your children and house with her....her name is Philipinas Lozares ... you could contact her on 63005047 or you could reply to this post if you wish to ask me any questions....thanks
 
hi, sorry i don;lt think she has any experince with dogs but u could check with her.......as far as i know she is not very passionate about them.
 
As i said in your other threads, your comment on your helper was very negative, but here your comment on this same helper is very positive, very inconsistent. Again, I think you should recommend your helper only when you are very satisfied with her not because you want to help her to find a new employer.
 
perhaps mushi had a word with her helper and things improved to the point that she is now very happy with the helper's performance?

i have no idea, just a thought, though
 
But mushi's very negative comment 'i have this helper since the last 8 months who, no matter how hard i have tried, fails to show any affection for my kids or any kind of enthusiasm to work, to play with them or even to smile' changed to her very positive comment 'she is excellent with my kids....she is very honest and hardworking and you can trust your children and house with her',........make others feel just very inconsisent..
 
hi ladies, i read all yr comments and honestly i would feel the same if i was in your place/////its totally upto u///// many of us get our helpers frm asiaexpat or other websites with little or no employers references so i thought it would help if anyone can get a helper with her employer ready to spgive an honest reference........and yes my reference is positive.....i may not be 100% happy with my helper but the way my 1-year old goes to her room and gives a hug every morning tells me a completely different story. In those days when i was not happy and yes even angry with her, the way my little 3 month would fall off to sleep in her arms made me control my temper and instead made me work out things with her...it was difficult but it was worth it....today we highly appreciate and respect each other......not everyone is perfect in this world and what did not suit me may suit someone else....in any case no one is going to hire her based on just this thread...thy r going to meet her, talk to her maybe even try her work out......so find out for yourself please.\
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by the way we r leaving by end of next week so if anyone is keen to meet her she has holidays this saturday and sunday.

all the best!!
 
Also replied to Mushi's older thread:

Just to back up Mushi's comments. I was in fact the one who offered Pinky a contract in Aug but because Mushi's visa was rejected, she could not release her as planned. I was due to go back to work in Oct so I could not wait for her release.

Although she did not work for me in the end, I met her once and found her to be earnest and she made the effort to keep me informed about the situation regarding her release from her current employer.

I also spoke to Mushi about the helper. She is honest about the strengths and weaknesses of her helper. For me, being honest and hardworking and willingness to learn are important. Other skills like housekeeping and babycare should be taught to the standard required by each individual employer.
 
woodstock07 said:
For me, being honest and hardworking and willingness to learn are important. Other skills like housekeeping and babycare should be taught to the standard required by each individual employer.
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I beg to disagree. Being honest and hardworking and willingness to learn are the very basic things a good helper should possess. Other skills can be taught for sure if the employer has the time and is willing to put in the effort to train the helper to do things 'her (the emplyer's)' way...But for many people out there, an experienced helper becomes a real help instantly which is what we are after after all...unless someone wants to go through the pain of training from scratch for months to even a year...

I believe what mushi had explained that she and the helper both adjusted and made changes afterwards and their relationship becomes pleasant enough that she now can confidently recommend her. However, I cannot help either but to point out one thing that Mushi had so frustratedly put it in her other thread: She is also quite negative in everything and honestly her entire outlook dampens my spirits since i have to spend the whole day with her....i have really tried my best to ask her her problems or any issues she may have with me....after this counselling she is a little better though looks forceful for a couple of days and then back to normal....

I can tell you from experience this is rather an issue that no one can affort to ignore. My helper for instance, as I previously so ardently put it, does the best quality of work at everything. However, coming from a broken family coupled with personality issue, she doesn't smile or talk much at all. In fact all people I know of was surprised after seeing her how I could possibly be happy with her...Because I know first hand how Mushi had felt: her entire outlook dampens my spirits...Imagine yourself getting up in the morning and greeting your helper with a smile but were greeted back with a stern look, like you owed her money or something...Don't forget if you are not working, you have to face your helper day in and day out. Actually I had to make it my job to talk her out of her personal issues/struggles/emotional ups and downs, (thank God she has nobody waiting for her to send her money to), by giving her sound and soothing advice, or helping her set up her personal goals etc to motivate her...I used to be very confident at handling all sorts of relationships, but I have to admit this employer-helper relationship is one of the toughest that I had to deal with...hence it gives me more perspective as to understand how on earth other ladies could feel reluctant to hire a helper even when they do need the help.

My 7-month continuous effort is finally paying off. My helper is ready to smile at me (only, not other people yet) a lot more. Of course she still does an excellent work, so I've absolutely no complaints otherwise.
 
HK2008, like I said in my post. Those are what I look for in a helper. You are of course entitled to what you want from a helper. I relied on my own judgment during the interview to decide whether Pinky was the right helper for me.

Mushi's reference was just one of the factors in my decision process and I also took into account what she had written in her previous thread.

Anyway, I'm not sticking out for Pinky as she did not work for me in the end. I'm just vouching for the fact that Mushi's account of events in August did take place.
 
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When Mushi's recommendation says that her helper is 'excellent' with kids, I just can't help assuming that this helper who commented as 'excellent' with kids must be someone who shows affection to kids, willing to play or smile with them. Not someone who spent 8 months with kids and still fails to show any affection for kids or any kind of enthusiasm to work, to play with them or even to smile. Am I right??
 
HK2008 said:
I can tell you from experience this is rather an issue that no one can affort to ignore. My helper for instance, as I previously so ardently put it, does the best quality of work at everything. However, coming from a broken family coupled with personality issue, she doesn't smile or talk much at all. In fact all people I know of was surprised after seeing her how I could possibly be happy with her...Because I know first hand how Mushi had felt: her entire outlook dampens my spirits...Imagine yourself getting up in the morning and greeting your helper with a smile but were greeted back with a stern look, like you owed her money or something...Don't forget if you are not working, you have to face your helper day in and day out. Actually I had to make it my job to talk her out of her personal issues/struggles/emotional ups and downs, (thank God she has nobody waiting for her to send her money to), by giving her sound and soothing advice, or helping her set up her personal goals etc to motivate her...I used to be very confident at handling all sorts of relationships, but I have to admit this employer-helper relationship is one of the toughest that I had to deal with...hence it gives me more perspective as to understand how on earth other ladies could feel reluctant to hire a helper even when they do need the help.

My 7-month continuous effort is finally paying off. My helper is ready to smile at me (only, not other people yet) a lot more. Of course she still does an excellent work, so I've absolutely no complaints otherwise.
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HK2008: What you have done to your helper impresses me. I would like to know how did you talk her out of her personal problems and to motivate her etc.... My helper is a bit like yours (before), does not talk and smile much. However she does good work and takes care of everything at home very well. Thanks.
 
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