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Bubba is 11 eleven months old, I'm still breastfeeding her and was planning to do so until she was a year old - only 1 month to go !!!!!

In the last few days, she was rubbing her new tooth on my right nipple and as a result a little skin has rubbed off, so, everytime she feeds on this side it hurts. Then this morning whilst sucking on my right boob, she actually bit me ! It really really hurt and I was cross with her, and bubba looked really upset and unhappy.

I take this as a sign that she's weaning herself ? Shall I stop breast feeding altogether ? Or shall I grin & bear it ? Any similar experiences ? Was just wondering how do mums breatfeed till the toddles are like 2/3 !????
 
You may find some helpful info from this link:

http://www.lllhk.org/

My daughter started to bite me when she was 5 or 6 months old. I wanted to give up too! I know how you feel. It's really painful!!! However, I learnt from LLL leader and other BF mums some tips to stop that habits which you will find from the link that Kashismum gave.

I BF my daughter till she was 25 months (she is 26 months old now) and I am glad that I didn't give up early.

Good luck and Happy Christmas!
 
if you want to give it up. then read some books recommended by lll about weaning before you decide. sometimes you want to wean cos nobody else you know is still nursing their babies beyond their one year old mark. her biting you is NOT a sign that u should wean her. esp if she shows that she was upset about hurting you. she will soon learn it is not funny to bite if you follow the suggestions in the above threads. sometimes, bub just wanna try out how it is to use their new tooth on mommy!! my baby bit me only twice. the first time i actually bled! if you nipple hurts cos there's a wound, try rubbing some lansinoh cream on. it helps it heal.

you have been nursing your bub for nearly a yr now, i'm sure you're starting to enjoy it. it's a special bond between the 2 of you which will eventually end (i mean, in the next few years, latest?)

personally, i do regret weaning my baby at 15mths....
 
My first got teeth at 8 months, he only bit me a few times, my second got teeth at 5 mnths, he bit me quite a lot for a couple of weeks. I just end the feed if he bites, he soon learns biting=no food, then I'd wait about 15 minutes or so, then resume feeding. People feed babies who have teeth all the time, it is not a reason in of itself to wean, unless you want to wean anyways. i fed my first for 20 months, my current baby is 9 months, I will feed him until he is 2 or self weans earleir.
 
I nursed my son for over 2 years. He bit me too and it was a very painful wound. But he learnt that if he bit me then he wouldn't get to nurse so he stopped very quickly and it was no problem at all.
 
thanks everyone. at first i thought that maybe she didn't want my breast anymore. I'm planning to bf till she's one.
joannek - you're right, all my frieds have stopped bf quite early on. but I continued.
i'll read the treads and see how it goes.
have a lovely x'mas !
 
Coco, if you plan to nurse your child longer, may be you need more friends who are doing the same thing. It helps if you know other mother friends who are doing the same thing, going through the same things and understand you.

After I joined LLL, I know that I am not alone (you don't have to be a member, you can just attend their meetings). Whenever I felt low or discouraged by soooo many "comments" I called or emailed LLL leader or those mothers who are still nursing and talked about it. I felt better afterwards.

Besides, if you are going with mothers who BF too, you don't feel so "lonely" or uncomfortable to BF your child in the public (especially BF toddler)

Enjoy BF your child!!
 
yes, coco. wee kean is right. it is quite lonely to be nursing a toddler. esp if your friends did bf, for maybe 3mths or 6 mths. & you're the only one is still nursing at 11mth. then you're the only one who's still nursing at 15mth, 18mth & 2 years. then your friends (who have bf-ed) see that you still have big boobs & say "you're STILL bfing your baby?! she's too old too be bfing!! YOU SHOULD stop!! if not she'll be very clingy!!" then you second thought yourself... and you become a little sad about your decision to continue this relationship, although it makes you & your baby happy, plus your husband is very supportive.....
and that's when WE come in!!! or the leaders of LLL. call them or post a thread & we talk to you, or go home & read the books about mothers who continue to nurse beyond 1 yr old.... and you feel good about your decision again.

this is my story.
 
After the biting incident, we were in Mongkok two days later and I tried to bf bubba and accidently hit her in the face whilst lifting my top up, so bubba went into a crying fit and I suspect that she thinks I hit her. So, she wouldn't bf that day - plus the two days after that, everytime I brought her near to my breast, she just yelled and cried. I nursed her a few times during the past 2 days whilst she was half asleep. I read some of the lll articles, and tried taking a bath together to encourage more skin to skin contact. She bf again this morning, but was in hysterics again at the 11 o'clock feed. it's getting really trying now and I think if she doesn't continue to feed then I will lose my milk all together, although I am expressing, but it seems to be getting less and less..........
 
Joannek, you are right, that was my story too :)

Coco, is your baby better now? Have you spoken/email Sarah or Maggie? I hope everything is ok soon. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me or call me.

My email is [email protected] and I will pm you my mobile number. I have no access to hotmail account today and may be many more days due to the earth quake.

Best regards,
Wee Kean
 
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Coco, i gave up breastfeeding when bub went through s a nursing strike at abt 10 months. I don't really know the cause of the strike, although she had a cold at that time (thus bf became uncomfortable for her) and the night before, she bit me during bf and I jumped and yelped out automatically which must have scared her 'cos she cried and cried. Thereafter she stopped breastfeeding completely, no matter what I did to coax her back on my breast. She would cry hysterically whenever she saw my breasts. I tried tha bath and body contact method, the feed-when-she-was-half-asleep method, I even called my midwife in Australia to get suggestions but nothing worked. In the end, I decided to wean her, and she was happy with the bottle. I did feel sad that that was the end of breastfeeding and I, the mother, was most unready for it. In hindsight, it wasn't such a bad thing afterall. She is perfectly ok with bottle feeding, and in fact gained more weight than when I was breastfeeding (I suspected I didn't have enough milk to satisfy her at her age), and I went back on a normal diet myself (I was in a restricted pure chicken diet for 8 months 'cos of my bub was "allergic" to proteins in my breastmilk). I may be the unpopular mum here but if YOU, the mohter, feels ready to stop breastfeeding, it is ok to stop. You will naturally feel guilty but try to tell yourself not to as you have breastfed your bub for 11 months afterall, not bad at all! Good luck...
 
Dear Coco,

First don?t worry about losing your milk ? even if you baby doesn?t breastfeed for a few days. It is estimated to take 42 days (that?s 6 weeks) for a mother with a well established supply to stop having milk after the last feed.

Babies rarely self wean before one year old. But the best way to know is to watch your baby?s behaviour. If she is happy and content without breastfeeding then she may well be ready to wean. If, however, she has fussy periods at the times that she normally would have breastfeed it is likely she is having a nursing strike rather than wanting to wean.

Extra cuddling, stroking, and skin-to-skin contact with the baby can help you re-establish closeness. Some babies are more willing to nurse when they are sleepy. Sometimes it helps if you are rocking or walking around (in which case a sling or cloth carrier can be useful.) Try nursing in a quiet room with the lights dimmed to avoid distractions. You can also try to stimulate your let-down and get your milk flowing before offering the breast so the baby gets an immediate reward.

Often a baby will be willing to feed at a particular time of day but not at other times when on a nursing strike. If this is the case try to stimulate the conditions when she is willing to feed at the other times.

The following page has information about nursing strikes from the LLLI web site, http://www.lalecheleague.org/NB/NBstrikes.html.

Best wishes and Happy New Year,
SARAH
 
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