just sharing a conversation over dinner

funny that the first part of ignorance is ignore.....just ignore the ignorance to the best of your ability.

you are the mother and they had their chance....i understand about mothers-in-law. there was a time when i was ready to cut off all ties to mine...i would not have stopped hubby from seeing her with the kids, but i wouldn't.

to be honest, i still keep my time around her limited. i know she's coming from a place of love, but i really don't need the grieft.
 
hang in there!

my husband always threatened to throw away my frozen BM when i was breastfeeding as well, he said they took up too much space and our baby didn't need THAT much anyways, but i was always worried he would get sick, i would have to travel, etc ... better safe than sorry!!!

Use carang's advice, mental music!
 
solidstars said:
hang in there!

my husband always threatened to throw away my frozen BM when i was breastfeeding as well, he said they took up too much space and our baby didn't need THAT much anyways, but i was always worried he would get sick, i would have to travel, etc ... better safe than sorry!!!

Use carang's advice, mental music!
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Or....

Solidstars, next time your husband tells you to shut up, say it back to him in front of his family.... they instead of mental music in your head play this OUT LOUD!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFacWGBJ_cs
 
Thank you to all. Am up pumping. Due to work changes, I will pump till my bub is 6 months. One more month to go.

@ solidstars
If he dare to throw mine away. I will make sure he gets it from me. I'm nice but I do have my bottom-line!
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nothing rani! that was it, the one call i overheard and then nothing happened. i asked and he said we have to find a time as they don't allow bookings so you have to walk in/queue and therefore we need to find someone to watch our baby, yadda yadda...

AmyH, that would only start another yelling argument with my son wondering what we were going on about! Nah, rather keep quiet if i can stand it.

taysty, hang in there! no, my husband didn't dare throw away mine either, i made THAT clear i would probably strangle him if he did. and in the end when i stopped BFingn i had so many leftover i got someone to make them into SOAP! So now baby has soap made from BM :haha:
 
solidstars said:
AmyH, that would only start another yelling argument with my son wondering what we were going on about! Nah, rather keep quiet if i can stand it.
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Solidstars,

I really feel for you but I fear that the longer you just keep quiet and put up with it the worse it will get for you all (including your son).

Good luck and I hope it gets sorted for you soon.
 
thanks all, really appreciate it.

rani he won't go as it's a 'waste of money'. the one he called was some governmental cheap one?
 
thank you Solidstars! make into soap? what an idea! you too, have anything to vent, please share with us! do not keep it inside.
 
Solidstars. I know this is a place for all of us to rant, but are there positive sides to your relationship with your husband? (Sometimes, blogs let us bring out all the negative and play down the positive).

If it's a loving relationship with some cultural / manner-type problems, it sounds like it can be fixed.
If there's no love there, what are your options for moving out? Are you financially independent? Do you have family to rely on?
I've been following your story for a while. If there is a pattern of verbal abuse -- like him shouting at you to "shut up" in front of his family -- it may teach aggressive or abusive behavior in the child. If irrational parenting practices prevail, it may hurt the child in the long run, despite his or his family's best intentions.
I'm not advocating breaking up your marriage -- I'm just wondering how bad it is, and whether there is a solution.
 
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