Our live-in helper started in July. (We have long had a wonderful live-out, but thought we should add another, since I now have a newborn and toddler.)
It is very awkward having this person around 24/7 -- the reason we went with a live-out the first time. It's like having an employee and a new roommate, without much privacy, given space constraints.
She's welcome to all the food in the house, where there is plenty of fruit, veg, meat, rice, grains, dairy, etc. She can add anything she wants to our grocery cart, or take money out of the "petty cash wallet" to buy food.
But she eats terribly. She will only eat our leftovers after we're done - and sometimes not even that. Her diet is cheap white bread, instant coffee, plain rice, instant ramen, cookies, sweets. Occasionally, she will have spam or take-out fatty pork. Gentle reminders -- or offers of healthier food -- have gone unheeded. Even if I say, "Hey, I made this nice fruit salad and it's too much. Want half?" she'll say no.
I worry about her, and it impacts her work. She is very overweight and huffs and puffs doing even non-strenuous work. Her weight means she's too slow to catch our fast toddler. She also goes to the bathroom an alarming amount. I'm not denying her bathroom breaks -- but she wakes many times a night to go, and is often in the toilet when I need her. (I know this can be a sign of diabetes).
She is also very reluctant to go outside -- even to the local mall or park -- unless we tell her to. And then she'd rather take our daughter to an indoor playroom than go outside. I wonder if this is because she's physically clumsy.
My question is: Is it my right to say anything? After all, she is a grown adult.
It is very awkward having this person around 24/7 -- the reason we went with a live-out the first time. It's like having an employee and a new roommate, without much privacy, given space constraints.
She's welcome to all the food in the house, where there is plenty of fruit, veg, meat, rice, grains, dairy, etc. She can add anything she wants to our grocery cart, or take money out of the "petty cash wallet" to buy food.
But she eats terribly. She will only eat our leftovers after we're done - and sometimes not even that. Her diet is cheap white bread, instant coffee, plain rice, instant ramen, cookies, sweets. Occasionally, she will have spam or take-out fatty pork. Gentle reminders -- or offers of healthier food -- have gone unheeded. Even if I say, "Hey, I made this nice fruit salad and it's too much. Want half?" she'll say no.
I worry about her, and it impacts her work. She is very overweight and huffs and puffs doing even non-strenuous work. Her weight means she's too slow to catch our fast toddler. She also goes to the bathroom an alarming amount. I'm not denying her bathroom breaks -- but she wakes many times a night to go, and is often in the toilet when I need her. (I know this can be a sign of diabetes).
She is also very reluctant to go outside -- even to the local mall or park -- unless we tell her to. And then she'd rather take our daughter to an indoor playroom than go outside. I wonder if this is because she's physically clumsy.
My question is: Is it my right to say anything? After all, she is a grown adult.