Hunter - have you discussed his participation in child raising? Can you reach an agreement between you both on what you expect vs what he is prepared to do? If men grow up without a role model showing them how involved they can and should be in their child's development, you may find that they do not participate as much as they can. It can be a learned behaviour. He will not think anything is wrong unless you discuss the matter calmly and clearly, in a positive manner.
How helpful is the daddy in taking care of your baby?
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i think by 'well off families' she did not necessarily mean from a financial standpoint but rather from a situational standpoint of having a family where the husband is more involved. with people from so many language backgrounds writing on this forum i've learned to be a bit more flexible in interpreting phrases.
anyway, Hunter, your son sounds incredibly lucky to have you for a mother and i am sure after he is a bit older your hubby will come around and naturally get more involved. a lot of men are not 'baby people' but come alive with kids when they are old enough to throw a ball around with or from their view 'more relatable' as little people. good luck and just remember how lucky your son is to have you for his mother right now.
anyway, Hunter, your son sounds incredibly lucky to have you for a mother and i am sure after he is a bit older your hubby will come around and naturally get more involved. a lot of men are not 'baby people' but come alive with kids when they are old enough to throw a ball around with or from their view 'more relatable' as little people. good luck and just remember how lucky your son is to have you for his mother right now.
Shenzhennifer
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>>>>sorry to have somewhat "downgraded" this site, as all seem to be very well-off families.
My husband is the only one working - I stay at home with the baby. Aside from his company looking after our very local (in tsuen wan) apartment rent, his salary is probably half of what many expats would pay for rent. We get by so far anyway. but I don`t think there will be too many classes and expensive playgroups in my son`s future!
My husband also thinks that his job is more important than what I do . When I said in a recent argument about my getting up XX times a night for the baby and him sleeping, his response was `i work during the day and so you work at night.` When I asked what he thought I was doing during the day he said `play with baby`.
So there ya go, good times all around.
My husband is the only one working - I stay at home with the baby. Aside from his company looking after our very local (in tsuen wan) apartment rent, his salary is probably half of what many expats would pay for rent. We get by so far anyway. but I don`t think there will be too many classes and expensive playgroups in my son`s future!
My husband also thinks that his job is more important than what I do . When I said in a recent argument about my getting up XX times a night for the baby and him sleeping, his response was `i work during the day and so you work at night.` When I asked what he thought I was doing during the day he said `play with baby`.
So there ya go, good times all around.
carang
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not to worry.... you'll get it all sorted out.
being a parent is the most important job you'll ever have, but many times it is also the most under-appreciated!
as others have said, it is not the "things" that you give a child that matters, it's the time, the love, the commitment that a child will remember as they get older. chances are your child will not remember that book that cost you $300 or the class that he took when he was 2 years old rather he will remember the time you took to read to him every night, all the times you blew bubbles while he sat in the bathtub, the times that he "helped" you cook dinner, the quiet times sitting and watching tv together, how you used to catch him when he came down the slide... or my own personal memory of my mum....when my brother or i were sick to our stomachs, sitting in front of the toilet, my mum would sit on the side of the tub and rub our backs. my brother and i recently discussed this memory (we both have the same memory) and we agreed that to this day we this is what we miss MOST from our childhood!!!
being a parent is the most important job you'll ever have, but many times it is also the most under-appreciated!
as others have said, it is not the "things" that you give a child that matters, it's the time, the love, the commitment that a child will remember as they get older. chances are your child will not remember that book that cost you $300 or the class that he took when he was 2 years old rather he will remember the time you took to read to him every night, all the times you blew bubbles while he sat in the bathtub, the times that he "helped" you cook dinner, the quiet times sitting and watching tv together, how you used to catch him when he came down the slide... or my own personal memory of my mum....when my brother or i were sick to our stomachs, sitting in front of the toilet, my mum would sit on the side of the tub and rub our backs. my brother and i recently discussed this memory (we both have the same memory) and we agreed that to this day we this is what we miss MOST from our childhood!!!