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Can anyone please give some input as I'm at my wits end. I've been trying to train my son (who is turning 3 this month) for months now and it's been going from bad to worse.
I started out by putting him on the toilet several times a day--when he wakes, when he gets home from nursery at lunchtime, after his nap, and in the evening. When he was at home, I'd take off the nappy and put him in undies. We have been using a padded toilet ring instead of a potty. He didn't ever like sitting on the toilet very much but would still do so and we started making a bit of progress when we caught him at the right times and could do the pee or poo into the toilet. Then we would praise him after. But he would never go to the next level of telling us when he needed to go. He only told us after his nappy or pants were soiled. We have always been quite gentle and never scolded him at all for any accidents. Only trying to reinforce afterwards to tell us next time BEFORE he needed to go.
In the last several weeks, he became extremely constipated, to the point where it was even painful for him to walk. And he would scream in pain when trying to pass the stool. I brought him to the doctor and we got some suppositories and other medicine to help him. His constipation is still not completely better but he hasn't had too many super painful incidents lately. The constipation is another problem in itself. He refuses to drink the prune juice and eat any fruit. He only eats broccoli with his meals twice a day.
Anyhow, in the last week, he has been 'holding his pee' back all the time when he needs to go. I think he's mentally messed up by the painful constipation he had. When I place him on the toilet, it's really obvious he needs to pee but he keeps trying to hold it and just cries and cries. So I take him off and put his nappy on and try to calm him. And then he'll just pee in the nappy, which usually leaks out now because the quantity is too much. Sometimes now, even with the nappy on, he tries to hold it back as much as he can. I try to reassure him that it's ok, he can pee in the nappy if he wants but he still tries to hold it all the time.
I'm really concerned and feel very bad for him. But the worse part is that I feel totally helpless--I just don't know what to do now! I don't know how to get him back to normal again and to get him to stop holding back when he needs to pee.
Can anyone help? I don't know where to start. None of the books help because they talk about training in a normal situation. I don't think ours is normal anymore because of the mental trauma/block that he has. Any feedback would be appreciated. So sorry for such a long post.
I started out by putting him on the toilet several times a day--when he wakes, when he gets home from nursery at lunchtime, after his nap, and in the evening. When he was at home, I'd take off the nappy and put him in undies. We have been using a padded toilet ring instead of a potty. He didn't ever like sitting on the toilet very much but would still do so and we started making a bit of progress when we caught him at the right times and could do the pee or poo into the toilet. Then we would praise him after. But he would never go to the next level of telling us when he needed to go. He only told us after his nappy or pants were soiled. We have always been quite gentle and never scolded him at all for any accidents. Only trying to reinforce afterwards to tell us next time BEFORE he needed to go.
In the last several weeks, he became extremely constipated, to the point where it was even painful for him to walk. And he would scream in pain when trying to pass the stool. I brought him to the doctor and we got some suppositories and other medicine to help him. His constipation is still not completely better but he hasn't had too many super painful incidents lately. The constipation is another problem in itself. He refuses to drink the prune juice and eat any fruit. He only eats broccoli with his meals twice a day.
Anyhow, in the last week, he has been 'holding his pee' back all the time when he needs to go. I think he's mentally messed up by the painful constipation he had. When I place him on the toilet, it's really obvious he needs to pee but he keeps trying to hold it and just cries and cries. So I take him off and put his nappy on and try to calm him. And then he'll just pee in the nappy, which usually leaks out now because the quantity is too much. Sometimes now, even with the nappy on, he tries to hold it back as much as he can. I try to reassure him that it's ok, he can pee in the nappy if he wants but he still tries to hold it all the time.
I'm really concerned and feel very bad for him. But the worse part is that I feel totally helpless--I just don't know what to do now! I don't know how to get him back to normal again and to get him to stop holding back when he needs to pee.
Can anyone help? I don't know where to start. None of the books help because they talk about training in a normal situation. I don't think ours is normal anymore because of the mental trauma/block that he has. Any feedback would be appreciated. So sorry for such a long post.