oh Dbkiwi, I find it extremely difficult but... try not to tell people. Here's why:
At the beginning on May, I found out I was pregnant. It was planned and we were SO thrilled! Like you, I wanted to tell everyone and after a few days I could no longer keep the secret. On my 12 week scan, at Tsan YuK, they found out that the fetus was dead. They estimated it died around week seven. Imagine, I carried a dead fetus for 5 weeks! Needless to say, it was a shock. I had told everyone, including my favorite waitress, the front desk man where I teach, my cleaning lady... (luckily, I had not made a Facebook announcement!) I felt so pregnant (my body was still releasing the hormones and that's why I did not have a miscarriage) so I never saw that one coming. After the D & C I could not hide in my house any longer and had to tell people...including my favorite waitress, the front desk man where I teach, and my cleaning lady. These are NOT the people you want to talk about a miscarriage.
My advice: tell your parents and your best friend only. If something bad happens, these are the people you will be seeking comfort from. I was so sick and tired of hearing the condolences everyone needed to give and the "things happens for a reason" and "you will be fine"... Trust me, I know how hard it is to keep the secret but before you know it, it will be the time to go for your 12 week scan and you will see a healthy baby
I waited 2 cyles and I am pregnant again! But this time, I am very careful. I only told my very best friends. On Monday, I am going to a private clinic for a first scan (it's 1300 HKD). I want to be reassured, this time. Then my 12 week scan is at Tsan Yuk again. I will give birth at Queen Mary. I have many friends who went there and they all had a positive experience.
* I just saw you asked about the first appointment on another forum. Tsan Yuk will not see you before 11 week and a half as they do a down syndrome check at the same time. Before that, it's too early to detect. If you go earlier to the public system, you might have to pay? I am not sure.
Keep me posted on how you are doing.