Hi Joyce
Yes, it can be quite a difficult task to find the right helper for you and your baby. You don't mention if you are planning on going back to work in which case the helper will be in full charge of the baby?
If you are not planning to work then at least you can train the helper and only use her for the tasks which you feel she is competant on.
Chosing a helper is a difficult task and the most important thing is that you actually like her and would be happy to see her 6 days a week!
If you can get access to The Matilda's B is for Baby Book, I have written a chapter on how to chose a helper. The other thing which I have written recently is Starting Off right with your Helper, which is in last months Parents' Journal.
An interview is essential and prepare a list of ?'s beforehand. If the Helper says she can cook then ask her what she can cook and HOW she does it. One of my Mums recently employed a helper having been told she could cook, only to find that her previous employer had weighed everything out first!
Ask lots of questions about how she would care for a baby. Try " what would you do if the baby has a very high temperature and we are uncontactable?" Push the question asking what she would do if the baby remained very sick and she still couldn't get you. What you will need is someone who is confident enough to contact a Dr or the hospital and mature enough to make decissions.
Some people like to chose a helper with no experience so that they can train them in their own methods. It's a good idea to send this kind of helper on a course such as The Matilda's Childcare course or I do training in the home on a one to one basis. I also do helper assessments for Mums who are returning to work and want to be confident that the Helper is doing a good and safe job.
Agencies do vary but always check references yourself and interview at least 4 or 5 helpers.
Let me know if I can help further. My phone no is 2530 1905
Good Luck
Yvonne Heavyside