Concieving a second child-how long did you take?????
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Littlequeen
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For me it took about 2 period cycles, which I myself found incredible
Hi- I'm sure the last thing you need to hear right now is people telling you how fast they concieved their 2nd child!
No doubt it is worrying, especially if a first child was concieved quick/ly and the second one not so fast!
I think it is impossible not to worry.....but it is possible to put the worry into perspective and lessen it a bit.
From what I have read the average couple takes 6-8 months to concieve, so if you have been trying for less than that, then no need to worry- just keep trying.
Most Drs. will say try for a year before taking any action....like seeing a Dr. but if it is really bothering you there is no harm in talking over your fears with a Dr. If only for reassurance, or advice!
No doubt it is worrying, especially if a first child was concieved quick/ly and the second one not so fast!
I think it is impossible not to worry.....but it is possible to put the worry into perspective and lessen it a bit.
From what I have read the average couple takes 6-8 months to concieve, so if you have been trying for less than that, then no need to worry- just keep trying.
Most Drs. will say try for a year before taking any action....like seeing a Dr. but if it is really bothering you there is no harm in talking over your fears with a Dr. If only for reassurance, or advice!
carang
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sorry, just re-read my response and it seems a little heartless. it wasn't meant that way. i got pregnant easily, but both times my pregnancies were hell on earth.
like i said, if it doesn't happen immediately, relax and try to take your mind off of it. it would be very difficult, i'm sure.
i do wish you the best of luck.
ps. you don't say how long a "little while" is... or how long it took you the first time.
like i said, if it doesn't happen immediately, relax and try to take your mind off of it. it would be very difficult, i'm sure.
i do wish you the best of luck.
ps. you don't say how long a "little while" is... or how long it took you the first time.
Mai,
I have been trying now for 6-months. My first is 4 years old. Both DH and I are in our late 30s, and its not going to be easy. There's a very supportive group of Moms on the Symptoms thread. Why don't you join us.
http://www.geobaby.com/forum/symptoms-t121507.html
I have been trying now for 6-months. My first is 4 years old. Both DH and I are in our late 30s, and its not going to be easy. There's a very supportive group of Moms on the Symptoms thread. Why don't you join us.
http://www.geobaby.com/forum/symptoms-t121507.html
Answering Carang
First child first cycle. We have been trying 4 cycles.
We just have to keep trying. It's hard to relax sometimes. Our daughter is turning one and we hoped the second child would come along soon.
I was curious to know how it took for others for reference.
Sorry, just wanted some comforting cause was hoping this month we'd be successful. But my period came this morning earlier this month and put a damper on things.
Thanks for the encouragement and support!
First child first cycle. We have been trying 4 cycles.
We just have to keep trying. It's hard to relax sometimes. Our daughter is turning one and we hoped the second child would come along soon.
I was curious to know how it took for others for reference.
Sorry, just wanted some comforting cause was hoping this month we'd be successful. But my period came this morning earlier this month and put a damper on things.
Thanks for the encouragement and support!
hi there Mai.. I feel your frustration.
First child, first cycle.
My son is now 19 months old and
we have been trying for #2 for just over a year!
I'm not sure when to go and see someone about it. thought i might just relax until after xmas and new year and then get things checked out.
Good luck!!
I had no idea I would have this much trouble second time around.
First child, first cycle.
My son is now 19 months old and
we have been trying for #2 for just over a year!
I'm not sure when to go and see someone about it. thought i might just relax until after xmas and new year and then get things checked out.
Good luck!!
I had no idea I would have this much trouble second time around.
Conceiving a second child - how long did you take?
First child took 4 cycles, second the same but I had a miscarriage, so we just started trying again. We're on our second cycle in November. Both times when I conceived I wasn't thinking about it. I think your body reacts better if the process is more natural and you can relax. Harder said and done, but it's not a race.
I wanted my kids to be closer in age and once the miscarriage occured I was very sad. My daughter turns 2 years old soon, so the next kid will definitely make them 3 years apart. Not the ideal situation, but at least my daughter will be at half-day school by the second arrives. This way I won't have both of them to deal with at the same time...you can focus your love/attention a little better I guess.
Stay positive...it's the only way to go. Best of luck as I need it as well.
First child took 4 cycles, second the same but I had a miscarriage, so we just started trying again. We're on our second cycle in November. Both times when I conceived I wasn't thinking about it. I think your body reacts better if the process is more natural and you can relax. Harder said and done, but it's not a race.
I wanted my kids to be closer in age and once the miscarriage occured I was very sad. My daughter turns 2 years old soon, so the next kid will definitely make them 3 years apart. Not the ideal situation, but at least my daughter will be at half-day school by the second arrives. This way I won't have both of them to deal with at the same time...you can focus your love/attention a little better I guess.
Stay positive...it's the only way to go. Best of luck as I need it as well.
Aussie mum:
I know that feeling even though we haven't been trying that long. But the frustration is still there. I thought the same thing want a baby get a baby. I guess that makes us cherish the one we have even more. Best of luck. You neve know what Santa might bring you ; )
Goodluck and keep well!!!
By the way I am an Aussie mum, too.
I know that feeling even though we haven't been trying that long. But the frustration is still there. I thought the same thing want a baby get a baby. I guess that makes us cherish the one we have even more. Best of luck. You neve know what Santa might bring you ; )
Goodluck and keep well!!!
By the way I am an Aussie mum, too.
First baby first cycle. We started trying for #2 when our daughter was 10 months old. Wanted them close together in age.
Conceived #2 first cycle but had a miscarriage, told by doc to just try again so conceived #3 on second cycle then had another miscarriage. Told to try again and conceived #4 first cycle. Another miscarriage... It has been a long and very emotional year......................................................................
Went to see a specialist overseas, who seems to think I have a blood-clotting disorder. which means that our first must have been some kind of miracle. Makes her even more precious than she already is and we love her so dearly. Just want to give her a little friend to play with, I grew up an only child and feel that she should have someone else around her to talk to and be with esp later on in life when parents become less important!
Told to go ahead and try again, conceived #5 first cycle and now having to inject myself everyday in the stomach with Heparin. Am totally desperate to hold onto this one..............
Good luck to you all, I feel for each and every one of you.
Conceived #2 first cycle but had a miscarriage, told by doc to just try again so conceived #3 on second cycle then had another miscarriage. Told to try again and conceived #4 first cycle. Another miscarriage... It has been a long and very emotional year......................................................................
Went to see a specialist overseas, who seems to think I have a blood-clotting disorder. which means that our first must have been some kind of miracle. Makes her even more precious than she already is and we love her so dearly. Just want to give her a little friend to play with, I grew up an only child and feel that she should have someone else around her to talk to and be with esp later on in life when parents become less important!
Told to go ahead and try again, conceived #5 first cycle and now having to inject myself everyday in the stomach with Heparin. Am totally desperate to hold onto this one..............
Good luck to you all, I feel for each and every one of you.
Mine are now 1.5 and 3.5 years.
There is nothing like trying to get pregnant, pregnancy, L+D and paretning to make you realize you have falsely thought you had control over your life!
I think it must be harder to get pregnant fast with the first because you expect to be pregnant fast with more, whereas because it took awhile the first time for me, I expected it to the second time and we were so suprised to have a baby that fast. In fact I would have preferred them to be a bit further spaced out. 24 months was my minimum spacing and they are 25 months apart. Ideally I would have like 30-36 months. Dealing with a 2 year old and a newborn was a challenge, but it is nice now that they are bigger.
There is nothing like trying to get pregnant, pregnancy, L+D and paretning to make you realize you have falsely thought you had control over your life!
I think it must be harder to get pregnant fast with the first because you expect to be pregnant fast with more, whereas because it took awhile the first time for me, I expected it to the second time and we were so suprised to have a baby that fast. In fact I would have preferred them to be a bit further spaced out. 24 months was my minimum spacing and they are 25 months apart. Ideally I would have like 30-36 months. Dealing with a 2 year old and a newborn was a challenge, but it is nice now that they are bigger.
Capital: That's what I thought about having them very close in age. I think a 24 month gap or greater would be a better idea for us too because we don't have a helper or family here. To jungle them both if they were very close would be a great challenge. My daughter is turning 1 on Monday and I'm glad that we have lots of time to soend with her.
How old are they now?
How old are they now?