Chinese traditions

most Chinese grandmas are getting more civilized and modern these days, like ELT said, if you don't feel comfortable with things, you should just acknowledge her views but stick with yourself.

I'm married to my husband who was brought up in a very traditional Hong Kong Chinese family, and i've spent many years living in the UK and my family are quite open with thing. I'm lucky that my husband is very considerate, we both try to get the balance of things and try very hard to handle things well, so that we can please them as well as putting our minds in rest.
 
Oh wow i am so glad i came across this post, i thought i was the only one with this problem!
My husband is chinese and i am british and have been advised by his MIL on these exact same things, it wasa bit eaier for me though as my own mum came over for the birth of my daughter and we had a bit of a laugh at my MIL's expensive especially when she insisted i couldnt have a shower for a week and had to ginger to wash (my mum found this hillarious).
WE had the one month party which was fime i didnt mind that as it was just a nice dinner at a resaurant and we had more chances to collect red packets for my daughter LOL. WE did have to pay for the dinner however and my husbands family is not a small one!
At te moment its not too bad as my MIL works so she only pops by occasionally.
The one thing that is really bugging me at the moment is my MIL's views on my daughters diet (whos 9 month old now).
I am banned from feeding my daughter bananas (which i do anyway coz she loves them) and my MIL insists i should be feeding her congee everyday for evrey meal! I do give her congee for lunch as it is a good meal for a baby but not for breakfast and dinner too!\My solution is to agree with her when she is here and just do it my own way when she is not, what she doesnt know wont hurt her and she feels she has some imput!
 
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