Dear Mrs Momo,
1) As others have said every baby (and every mother) is different. Some babies do need burping or at least sitting upright for a while and others don't. If you don't burp enough your baby will let you know by wriggling about. So my suggestion is always to not burp and see if your baby needs it. If he doesn't you've saved work and if he does very quickly you will know.
2) It sounds like the weight of your breast against the bed is hampering the draining of the ducts. Try different positions to see if it helps. Another position which allows you to get rest is reclining with the baby on top of you instead of side lying. (Reclining is now thought to be the most natural way to breastfeed as it uses the baby's instincts and gravity as a help rather than a hindrance, which happens with sitting up straight and side lying.)
3) Let the baby finish on one side (i.e. until he comes off - don't stop him) and then see if after a few minutes (maybe of sitting up and burping or of letting his cheek be next to your breast) if he wants the second side. If he takes the second side that is fine and if he doesn't want the second side that is also fine. Remember he may want a piece of chocolate cake after about 10 to 15 minutes (see thread
http://www.geobaby.com/forum/thread119515-2.html)
Generally babies who only feed from one side per feed want more feeds through out the day. Although most mothers initially think that more feeds would be a problem, however, this depends on your life style. For a second time mum who needs to look after older children more but shorter feeds often work out as more manageable.
4) It is not necessary to empty the breast when breastfeeding successfully - in fact it is impossible to do so! We are looking that you feel relief after the feed and that you can tell that some milk has been taken out. (If you feel fuller after feeding please get help from a lactation consultant or a LLL leader immediately.)
Please don't worry about how much fore and hind milk your baby gets - your body will work this out for you without having to do anything. When your breast is full you have more sugar in your milk (called fore milk) and as your breast empties the milk gets more fat (called hind milk). The amount of fat in the milk is dependent on how full your breast is. And how full your breast is is dependent on your breast capacity - i.e. how much milk you can hold in your breast at any one time.
If your breast capacity is large then you are likely to have a lot of milk in the morning (when well rested) and thus lots of fore milk and still have a lot of fore milk after the first few feeds. Thus the baby gets more fore milk in the morning and more hind milk in the evening. If your breast capacity is small then the baby gets both fore milk and hind milk at each feed. It really doesn't mater as the baby needs both fore milk and hind milk to grow and so long as you keep breastfeeding he will get both.
I would like to mention a word or two about pumping. You are currently in a very critical stage of breastfeeding. Not only does your baby need to feed between 8 to 14 times a day but your body also needs to be fed from 8 to 14 times a day. Pumping is not the same as breastfeeding and so we only would use a pump at this time if there was a problem with the breastfeeding. Pumping instead of breastfeeding at this stage can lead to a long term low supply and pumping in addition to breastfeeding at this stage can lead to a long time over supply (also a problem). What is ideal is that your body and the baby's needs are matched and this is best worked out by direct breastfeeding. The first three weeks of breastfeeding are very intense work but once you've done this work the rest of breastfeeding is comparatively easy.
Please remember you are always welcome to attend LLL meetings to get extra support with your breastfeeding. The meeting details are available at
http://www.lllhk.org/Meetings.html
And the article.
Why La Leche League?,
http://www.lalecheleague.org.nz/articles/why_la_leche_league.htm
explains why you might enjoy our meetings.
Best wishes,
SARAH