Baby not wanting to be put back in cot at night

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My baby is turning 4 months this Sunday and previously after her night feeds (ie 3 am or so) I could place her back in her cot and she would drift back to sleep. Recently she's refused to be placed back in her cot after the feed as she cries when put down. If I continue to hold her or place her in our bed she sleeps fine. Her cot is still in our bedroom and she sleeps there for her daytime naps fine, so I'm just wondering why she won't sleep there during the early hours.... Anyone with a similar experience?
 
Our son is 10 months old and he still does that once a week and we have to carry him anD he sleeps once down on the cot he cries. We must have carried him put him down atleast 3-4 times before he sleeps. He must be teething because he bites everything and still has not a single tooth just a white spot.
 
we are totally wrong example... we co-sleep with our today turned 12-mth little man for several months already. He would sleep in his own cot until the midnight feed, then wouldn't go back to sleep unless he is in our bed...
 
I guess she would go to sleep in her cot if I kept persisting, but at 3am all I want to do is go back to sleep after having fed her. It's just so much easier to put her to bed with us as she falls asleep instantly. But I do not really want to co-sleep....
 
My 6 month old sleeps much better beside me. And since he still feeds 2 or 3 times at night, I figure it the easiest thing.
there may come a point when you decide to 'train' your baby to sleep alone, but 4 months may be a little early.
Enjoy the cuddles while you still can.
 
Hi Kashimum
Did you do the same with your 1st? If so, did you have problems transferring to his/her own room (assuming Kashi is in his/her own room now). Don't know why but I keep worrying about sleep association..
 
I'm going thru the same thing as you guys...

My 5-month old who used to fall asleep on her own at night when put in her cot now refuses to do so. We've been co-sleeping with her as I find it easier to b'feed her and then just roll back over to sleep! Plus, I enjoy waking up and seeing her lying next to me and seeing her beam her bright smile. Like Kashismum, we'll sleep-train later... :p

We did that with our first one --i.e., crib alone, co-sleep, then transfer to own room and own bed by 6 months. No big issues.

Good luck!
 
Is this a common problem with babies I wonder? As long as it isn't a problem to transfer them to their cot afterwards then in a way why not sleep with them?!
 
Good to know we're not the only parents co-sleeping with the baby. I must confess, both my hubby and I quite enjoy it!
 
rani, when did you stop co-sleeping with D? May I ask why, and how you made that transition?
 
the only challanging bit is putting my little girl down during dinner time. her bed time is 7pm and it's too early for me to go to bed with her!
 
Same story here too. Mine is now 7 months. He sleeps peacefully until the early hours then wakes up for a quick feed and falls back to sleep in my bed. I didn't mean to co-sleep and often I don't even remember him going to sleep beside me because I was asleep first! I've got pillows pushed down between the bed and the wall so that he can't fall down the gap and I don't use a duvet.
 
Just wanted to let you all know that the past few nights my little girl has gone down in her cot with no problems (knock on wood). The trick was I placed her on her side and she seems more settled that way. When I used to place her on her back she would either instantly wake up or get frightenend.
 
AG2007, that's good to know. Thanks. I will try that on my almost-5mth old daughter. She's been a great sleeper - puts herself to sleep in her own cot and room, until the last 5 days. Will fall asleep outside but the min. we put her in her cot, she awakes and cries. We usually finally get her to bed at 9pm through a variety of methods. We too want to resist co-sleeping much as I love waking up to her smiles.
 
juicy73
Unfortunately the trick only really worked for a short while. I still put her down on her side but the problem now I have is when she moves to her back during her sleep she sometimes wakes up and cries (wanting to be put back to her side I reckcon). I'm thinking its coz she's started to learn to roll over so is a bit frustrated and is hard to settle. I read that when babies have developmental milestones they tend to have problems sleeping. I'm just hoping this will pass.... SOON! At the moment she's waking every 2 hours all night long and another bad habit I've started is to nurse her back to sleep (which actually only started about a month ago when she got the cold and now I can't shake off the habit!)

Good luck with yours!
 
Ag2007

My little one is only two months old and we also co-sleep. Tried to let him sleep in his own cot, but would wake himself up with his flailing arms. Doesn't like being swaddled either. He's also developed a habit of wanting to nurse every time he wants to sleep. Maybe he's starting to associate sleep with nursing. Am i fostering a bad habit? What should I do? I figure it's ok, since he is still quite young.
 
li555
Sounds EXACTLY like my little girl. Except she was sleeping fine for the first 3 months and when she got the cold she's been difficult to put down (unless on her side which we only found out about recently). I've recently put her in a grobag and she seems to be adapting to it (took a few days to a week). As for wanting to nurse to sleep, that's very common for breastfed babies and mine is doing the same. I too am worried about sleep association, but to be honest what can you do if your baby is crying for milk?!?! Sometimes I try to rock her instead of feed and if that fails I feed her. Also I've been trying to shorten the feeds in the hopes that she'll figure out its not worth the hassle of waking up in the middle of the night. She used to be able to sleep a long stretch of 5 hours but now wakes up every 2-2.5 hrs without fail! *Sign* That's motherhood for you!
 
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