Baby Growing up & Getting More Difficult

I agree with Shenzhennifer, if you think about it too much - especially as things get more challenging, you will never have a second one! If you always thought you would have more than one child and love children, then just do it!
 
Obiwan said:
Ladies ... during these 'challenging' moments, do you feel you can handle another kid? Or does having more make it easier (or harder)?
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Good question! My son is nearly 15 months and I've always wondered how people managed twins or even babies born close in age. I'm happy sticking with one child...its not the challenging moments that bother me its the dreaded pregnancy (I had horrible morning sickness all the way through) and dealing with a toddler at the same time.
 
I think it's good crazyness, good laughs, so much joy and being proud of my son who pushed us to have another one... more than the hard times.
I was scared also about dealing with a toddler and eventually being sick (I was sick from morning to evening for the first one), and surprisingly, I had nearly nothing ! seems my body got used to the hormones, and I just didn't have time to be sick...
 
must say that having just one was never an option for me. My two are exactly 2 yes apart and they love each other so much, it's amazing to me. The can play the entire day together and never argue. They miss each other during the day when my eldest is in school that they run to each other with arms outstretched for a huge bear hug when we pick him up from school!

The thing is with the second one you've done it before. It isn't such a steep learning curve as when you have your first.

If I could talk hubby into #3, I would do it in a heartbeat!
 
i'm hoping to get him to be more positive about the idea of adoption.

since i was little, i always thought i'd give birth to 2 and adopt one (from china, incidentally, never knowing i'd be making my home here!)....

still working on it. we'll see, maybe in a couple of years. i think if we do it, it would not be a new born, but rather maybe a toddler....
 
carang said:
when all else fails:

MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU!
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Hahahahah ... thank you, but somehow I think it's more like my little bub staring me in the eye ...

"MUMMY, SIZE MATTERS NOT! LOOK AT ME. JUDGE ME BY MY SIZE DO YOU? HMM?"

God bless my Force. Amen.
 
sorry... you have NO IDEA how long i've been waiting to find the chance to say that!

(i'm so glad you are another star wars "geek"... i thought i'd be the lone one on this board.)
 
my baby is 15 months old and she started to depend 100% on milk alone. She will refuse all solid/porridge after first 2 spoonfull.

Need help on how to deal with this as I know she cant just drink milk all the time.
 
easiest way? just stop giving her milk.

it sounds awful but after a day or so, she'll start to eat again.

remember, if her tummy is full from milk, then she doesn't have room for other stuff.

also, by 15 months your baby should be able to eat everything you do, just in smaller pieces and quantities. pizza, spaghetti, fish, chicken, rice, veg, pasta, sandwiches (cut into small squares), toast....
she may be refusing because porridge is terribly boring!
 
I should bookmark this thread... when it comes to a situation where I am on the verge of losing my temper, I shall read what you ladies wrote here then tell myself that my baby is not "that" difficult!! My son is 9 months old, his fondness in food frustrates day after day, sometimes he eats pretty well, sometimes he cries at the sight of a spoon! He loves playing with cables/electric wires and screams/cries/arches his back when I pull them away; wakes at 3:30am and refuses to go to sleep; gets bored by playing alone for 5 minutes and demands to be carried or cries his tongue out; refuses to lie down so I can't change his nappy or dress him at all... He is not walking yet (though loves standing all the time) so I shall prepare for the worst to come!!! Cheers, ladies.
 
growing up and getting more difficult?

i've been upstairs working this afternoon...both of my kids are sick and not their usual cheerful selves.

twice in the past 30 minutes, my daughter (3) has come upstairs crying as if the world was ending babbling, 'mummy, goh-goh HIT me on the head!'....

so, mummy calls son (5) upstairs to figure out what is going on.

son comes up and says, 'yes, i hit her on the head... but mummy! she openned the shower gel, rubbed it all over her hands, then rubbed it all over my jumper! I HAD TO HIT HER ON THE HEAD!'

so....just think what you have to look forward to! LOL
 
I almost missed this fun thread becuase my computer broke down. Now I have a new one so I am making up my " lost time".

So I am not alone. My 10 month old behavior and my worries of having a second. Just love this forum that keeps me informed. And I won't be told off by helpers about " how difficult it is to look after your boy". I don't know about in HongKong, but in this area, some helpers tend to do this (complain about your baby) to get more paid.

We started the song and dance, entertain him to eat with new and novel objects since he was 7 months old. At least he is eating for now. But becuase of this thread, I am equiped for the more "chanllenging phase".

Keep up the good work ladies.
 
This is such a wonderful forum!!

Baby Ethan (almost 6 months) started out as the best behave baby ever - in fact I used to set my alarm to wake us up for feedings until I got the greenlight from his doctor to feed on demand! This meant many nights of good sleep and such that is until he got his first viral infection...then his second viral infection a week after he recovered but the 2nd time we thought it was a UTI cuz it lasted so long - thankfully now its all over! Unfortunately, he's gotten used to me feeding him every 2 hours :(

Miraculously yesterday he slept through...will keep you posted on how he does tonight and so on...
 
He did it!

He slept through the night again last night! Interestingly enough he's been taking wonderful naps all day too...could it be because we've been home all day? Or is he developing a routine? Either way, I'm one happy mommy...but already suffering from cabin fever...think I should go out soon!
 
karmah1 said:
oh I couldn't agree more with this topic....the new born stage was so much easier in many ways!!
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I have to say that for us, newborn stage was horrible--newborn through 6-months-old and then it got much, much better.

The benefit for my son as he is a spirited baby--once he got a bit older and could move about by himself more he became easier to take care of in a way--as long as you assembled some barriers for precaution. Up until that point he wanted to be personally entertained by me the 16+ hours a day he was awake (never took naps and slept fitfully at night--up every 2 hours all night long). He wasn't content to stare at a mobile above his crib or just lay on a mat and ooh and ahh. He wanted me to be standing over him playing with him all day long and if I didn't he would scream. And it had to be me--not another person. Day in, day out.

So, I actually felt that at 6 months my son started to become more "human" and I loved it. I loved introducing new foods to him. Y'know, he wasn't much on the pears but he loved the apples and one day I was eating some spicy curried lentils and he just crawled over to me and opened his mouth for a big bite and that was his first real solid food. He also just became able to get interested in a toy and stay focused on it for more than 10 seconds which was a nice reprieve from the first 6 months. I never got to experience that "sleepy newborn" with my son--he was just so full-on all the time.

So, I don't know, the refusal of milk was something I dealt with from day one. My son was very particular about that. He breastfed well (as in, had the right skill for it) but he hated breastfeeding and from early on (before 1 month old) he would push away and it was just a constant fight to get him to BF so we did the pumping thing which was a losing battle for 5 months. And then my son was very specific about when and how much he was willing to eat. Hunger for him was very off/on--so if he was not hungry not matter if it was time for the bottle, he would stiff-arm us and push away (as early as 3 months) and if he was hungry he became hungry immediately (no warning signs at all) and would begin screaming like he hadn't been fed in days.

To me, a little refusal of the bottle at 6 months isn't all that defiant. By 1-year-old my son would refuse to eat sometimes for days and I was frantic. On the doctor's advice, I just kept offering and not getting upset if he didn't eat and soon enough he would get hungry enough to accept. And that was almost 1.5 years ago so he hasn't starved yet. :)

So, just see it this way, you had a smooth road for the first 6 months but in life you gotta pay your dues sometimes and kids are good toll collectors.
 
Love reading these posts!

There are always ups and downs. My son (now 9 months old) started to try solid (cereal, pureed veg, pureed fruit) when he was 6 months old and he loved it. Well, at the begining at least. Then he refused to take anything except his milk. He screamed, arched his back, shaked his head when we tried to offer him anything solid. For more than a month, I was spending time preparing food and dumping them. It was frustrating. But I kept trying and now he is taking congee twice a day. I make congee with brown rice powder, chicken (or pork) broth, and some vegetables. Sometimes, I also throw in several raisins or use pear / apple to add flavor. He likes his congee.

I hope I am prepared to more challenges to come after reading these post.
 
When you get frustrated with your babies/toddlers because of their 'difficult' behaviour, it's really nice to come onto this site and share your experience with others as you'll find you are not alone, and, sometimes you may find your experience is indeed not the worst! :)) The latest challenge, sleeping, is solved... and I am not sure what's the next one....
 
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