It is true that sometimes the hospital policies make getting breastfeeding off to a good start difficult. If you find that your breastfeeding isn?t going well then please consider getting extra help.
I think it is helpful to understand what normal breastfeeding behaviour and patterns are like so that at least you understand that the practices in the hospital aren?t what you are trying for once home.
Many hospitals in Hong Kong have timetables for breastfeeding which mothers try to continue once back home. This seems reasonable if you don?t know that in hospital you weren?t feeding the baby enough.
A new born baby needs to feed between 8 and 14 times in 24 hours. We phase this like that and not every x hours because babies are not regular in their eating habits.
Other behaviours which are very common but worry mothers because medical staff don?t talk about them are what I call the ?Chocolate cake syndrome? and the ?Chinese banquet syndrome?.
Chocolate cake syndrome
Imagine that my husband and I are eating dinner. I tell him that we have a chocolate cake for dessert. However, when he finishes his main course he tell me that he is full and doesn?t want any cake. At this point I suggest watching TV! When the first adverts come on he says, ?You know maybe I?ll have a piece of that cake after all.?
This behaviour is very common in babies (as well as husbands). The ?chocolate cake? feed is usually just 5 to 10 minutes but sometimes the baby doesn?t just want one slice of cake but the whole thing and you end up feeding for another hour.
This doesn?t mean that you don?t have enough milk. Just like I had enough food for my husband (after all I had a whole cake when he said he was full) you also have enough milk. It was the baby who changed his mind.
This analogy is actually very good. Just as chocolate cake is a high fat snack after your meal, any milk that the baby takes after a feed will be higher in fat than the original feed ? just like a piece of chocolate cake!
Chinese banquet syndrome
Rather than having big feeds with big gaps some babies like to have lots of small feeds. Mothers often worry about this because they seem to be spending all the time feeding because they aren?t able to do anything during the breaks.
I like to think of this as a Chinese banquet. At banquets each dish you are given is quite small but you are given lots and lots of them and at the end of the evening you are fuller than if you?d had a meal at home.
Some babies like to eat like this, often wanting to be at, or near, the breast for two to three hours or more. It is so common it has a name, cluster feeding. But it is a behaviour that I know many new mothers worry about. But it doesn?t mean you don?t have enough milk ? rather that your baby wants to feed this way. When the baby eventually stops and goes to sleep he usually sleeps for quite along time, maybe even four or five hours.
There is a nice information sheet called Cluster Feeding and Fussy Evenings,
http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/fussy-evening.html
Our hospitals make us believe that babies should have large feeds and large gaps between those feeds. This seems to work well for bottle fed babies (where the caregiver decides how much milk the baby drinks at each meal) but it doesn?t work well for all breastfed babies.
So no matter how good or bad start you get with breastfeeding in the hospital try to fully breastfeed once you are home. And if you have soreness or are worried that the baby isn?t putting on enough weight ? GET HELP.
Best wishes,
SARAH